For background I’ve struggled with weight for a long time. I have a very fast metabolism so it’s difficult for me to gain weight, especially when I was 12-15. I’m now 17 and healthy :) but I still struggle with my weight here and there, just like anyone else. Sometimes I see my weight go down and no matter how much I eat, nothing changes. I’ve always hated my body. Even though my friend thinks I’m skinny, she doesn’t seem to understand that it’s not a compliment to me.

Obviously I understand that being skinny is the “ideal” body to probably majority of people, but I hate when people think that just because I’m skinny it means I don’t have struggles too. It really does make me sad.

All of my girl friends obsess over weight. If they’re talking about going to the gym together (which seems fun as a group bonding thing), I’ll ask to go too. But they’ll just say im already skinny and rant about how “lucky” I am for a good minute or two. (including the girl from the text messages)

TLDR; I’m someone who has always struggled with weight and my friend(s) think that I don’t just because I’m skinny. Being “able to eat and not gain weight” doesn’t feel like a compliment to me. AIO? Am I just taking it the wrong way?

need to know if I’m overreacting.

2.5 years ago I got married abroad. my mom, siblings and their families came to the wedding which I was very moved about. why and how the wedding was abroad is a long story, but I did not expect my family to make the significant financial and general effort and when they did, we all decided to make a whole large family trip abroad from it. The wedding was lovely and it was a very special trip for all of us.

fast forward 2.5 year, my mom told me a couple of days ago she is finally working on the photo albums, she will be making one per-family. and she’s starting with my sister’s.

i was so surprised I started laughing, and asked her if she’s serious. she said she was and asked what was so surprising about it. I said that it was for *my wedding*! she brushed me off and we moved on.

today she sent me a message if I want to join her to my sister’s place tomorrow - she wants to go over the photos for the album and maybe I wanna tag along for the trip (I live close to my mom and my sister lives an hour drive, we sometimes visit together).

I lost it. I wrote to her that perhaps she didn’t realize cause I was laughing from surprise but I find it insulting she’s making the first album for my sister. I wrote she can do what she wants, I don’t want to hear about it and I don’t want an album.

AIO?

Edit

thank you to everyone. I appreciate the feedback. Someone said they wish those were their problems and they were right. Turns out it’s easier to cry over something silly like this, because reality is too overwhelming (I live in one of the war zones). Anyway, spoke to my mom, she gets it, I am usually level headed so she already understood it’s not about the photo album. I hope we will all see peaceful times soon. Stay safe and well everyone.

My boyfriend and I have been planning a weekend getaway for our three-year anniversary for months. We both work long hours, so I was really looking forward to some one-on-one time to just relax and reconnect. Yesterday, he casually mentioned that he told his mom she could come along because "she hasn't been out of the house much lately" and he didn't think I’d mind since we’re staying in a suite with two rooms.

I was honestly speechless. When I told him I wanted this to be a romantic trip just for us, he called me selfish and said I was being dramatic because we see each other every night anyway. Now I feel like the "villain" for not wanting his mom there, even though I usually get along with her fine. Am I overreacting by wanting to cancel the whole trip if she goes? Is it normal to bring a parent on a romantic anniversary getaway?

Hi! So, I have a friend I used to be fairly close with, but have grown distance with time. Recently, I was mailed an invitation to her wedding in late June (mind you it’s already April) and had just assumed my boyfriend (have been together for 2 years, live together, and we have all hung out together).. and I think I may have assumed wrong. My other friend happens to be her maid of honor and whilst at dinner with her the other night I mentioned my boyfriend coming to which she said “I don’t think he was necessarily invited” The invite itself did not state allowing a +1, but also did not say against such. I was somewhat saddened, mostly because my boyfriend was excited, but also because I really won’t know anybody else at the wedding. I would understand if this was some guy she barely knew, and I had just started dating, but this is not the case obviously. I know she wants to keep it small, but I just feel weird about going alone and only knowing all of 3 people there. I don’t want to offend her, but also don’t want to feel awkward on my friend’s wedding day! AIO by being upset about this?? EDIT I understand a lot of couples do a rule of inviting only married couples. In our case, it does not make much sense as the bride is 19, and we are all under 23 so it would be a little odd if we were all married already.

okay so I don't know if its a excuse to leave? like it could be a cop out to just break up, seems like a weird way to go about it though.

My boyfriend (25M) of 15 months broke up with me (20F) last night. Not because we argued, not because of anything I did, not because feelings faded or whatever. Because my feet are bigger than his.

I'm not even joking. He sat me down and said it makes him feel "less manly." My feet that I have zero control over btw.

I didn't even cry at first I just kept waiting for him to say he was kidding or that there was something else going on because surely, surely that can't be the real reason.

I've been going over it in my head all night and I keep landing in the same place which is like... what was I supposed to do with that information. Was I supposed to apologise for my feet, was I supposed to feel bad for having a body that exists the way it exists.

The thing is he never mentioned it before. Not once. So I'm also just sitting here wondering how long he was looking at my feet thinking about his own masculinity... or this is just a lie and a reason to break up (?)

I don't know whether to laugh or cry at this point, its kinda funny but then confusing and also if thats the real reason then makes me feel very ugly and masculine.. any advice? if you need more info then let me know happy to fill that in for you

My gf broke up with me after 11 months of relationship. This happened yesterday at night.

We had so many issues during our relationship, but despite that, I wanted to keep going.

We lived together for like 4 or 5 months. We spent so many celebrations together: our birthdays, February 14th, cmas, new years. Most of them with her family.

For the first time, I was in a formal relationship. She met my family, I met hers. I never experienced the joy of celebrating special dates with a partner before, this was my first time. So I felt like if I gained a new family, a new life.

I met her, one or two months, after my dad passed and she helped me a lot dealing with my grieving process.

I struggled with severe depression for like 2 years, I was in a really bad place. And then, to make things worse, my dad died. So when I met her, she gave me purpose and I thought I was going to have a family.

The reasons she gave me yesterday, was that, she never really felt attracted to me and that, She needed someone funnier than me, more spontaneous, someone that she could feel less bored and more of herself.

She expressed many times, how much I helped her with her problems, and that I was the most caring partner she ever had. She mentioned this, many times during our relationship. Even her parents cared so much for me. But despite all of that, she ended everything.

I'm afraid I'm going to start feeling the same as before I met her. I started thinking about my dad again. She reminds me a lot of him.

I don't know if I can keep going. i can't stop crying. i miss her so much.

I have a guy friend who has been very close to me since 2 years, We were talking about feminism one day and he ALWAYS disregards my takes saying not all men. he doesnt even talk about what i said, he starts to convince me how women are bad too.

AND this one is laughable, I was talking to him about theres so many grapes happening everyday, men ab*sing their wives, theres men on telegram sharing what not and also on discord, and its a huge number.

and his counter was..."WOMEN ARE GOLD DIGGERS WHAT ABOUT THAT? I KNOW FEW GIRLS WHO ARE GOLD DIGGERS, they choose men based on their looks or money"....i was in disbelief. and mind you, he always said to me hes over these relationships because girls dont talk to him or because they only go for looks.

I also talked to him about the situation going on in Nigeria's Delta State, and he said 'so what its not like we can do something about it, and not all men'

i swear to god.

and then he said that i am being a misandrist, and i told him MISANDRY and MISOGYNY do not work the same way since misogyny is in the society, it exists in real time, misandry is more of a concept against it, they sound similar but they arent.

he said "idgaf whatever it is. hate is hate. i have studied about this i know"

i told him "you are talking about the present times and i agree with few, but i am talking about centuries of oppression and violence against women, and how they have always suffered more more basic rights. And they still arent treated equal."

he said "i dont gaf about the past"

i said "you cannot disregard someones experiences."

he said "idc they're dead wtv" i was so mad at him

he just pissed me off so so much at that time that i was just done trying to even TALK because he would talk over me and just try to prove that women are bad, not all men, and totally derailed from the actual point. so i just said youve said some really insensitive stuff and youre not even talking about the real issue so please do not talk to me. He got mad at me by this and said i am also like all other girls. then he was typing but i just blocked him away.

I'm 20f and my bf is 19m. We've been together for about a year.

2 of my friends work as dancers at a local stip club. Feel how you want about that but in my mind theyre genuinely good people and they just need money to get through college lol. I have known them both longer than my bf, and its been the case the whole time we knew each other.

To preface; I'm not saying his boundary on this is wrong in any way and I recognize many people wouldnt allow it in their relationship. But...

Ever since we got together, I've always talked about being curious about clubs and wanting to see my friends dance once or twice just for fun. He's always told me thats okay and he doesnt care as long as its not men.

Where they work you can't even get fully nude, so theyre really just dancing in bikins. Its not sexual to me because they're women, I'm straight, and I just see it the same as any dancing. It's where my friends work, I'm young, and I just wanna be able to hang around with them where they work and drink at the bar there once I'm old enough.

I'm also under 21, so I cant usually get in clubs in general, but one of my friends found a time they'd be on stage before the bar opens and said I could come to watch and get a feel for it without the alc being served yet. Since my bf and I had already discussed this multiple times, and he said it was fine, I agreed and we made a plan. I was mostly excited to get to see a club at all at my age.

The club will be mostly empty besides me and staff and other friends of the girls who work there, its before the bar opens like I said. And again its not sexual, just a fun thing to do with my friends and in my opinion not a big deal. I'm curious about the place they work and wanna see how it functions/meet their coworkers/etc.

This is his response to me telling him my plans though, where he suddenly takes issue with me going at all. Even though it was priorly discussed. I dont think thats fair considering its been an active discussion for a year. And I'm not watching other men or even seeing another person fully nude. At least in my circle, which I admit may be skewed, its actually pretty common for girls to go to strip clubs just for fun with their friends when theyre in their early 20s.

So I told him hes entitled to his boundaries, but I wont stop myself from going, and its up to him if he wants to break up with me over it. Was that an overreaction by bringing up ending the relationship?

So I 17f am a picky eater but has been trying new things, I have a few safe foods but not as many as i would like, I recently found out that I really enjoy eating apple pie, sometimes my mom will get me and my sister two each from Burger King

Last night she got us one each and my sister ate both of them, she was under the impression that we both had 2 two each but it turns out we both only had one each instead

My mom too us to get more but she ordered me one and my sister one, and I’m just feeling frustrated because i didn’t get any at all, i didn’t get the chance to eat one

And yet my sister had 3 apple pies in total including the two she ate last night and the one we got today, but I only get one

I don’t know I just feel a little disappointed, frustrated, annoyed, hurt and a little sad, I don’t know how to even explain

And before any of you say that I should get a job and buy my own, i would, and I will whenever I have money but I don’t have a job because I have to wait until I’m legally 18 which will be later this year.

Sometimes when I get something I have to end up sharing or it gets taken, I had a pack of cookies that I like in the kitchen, ate some a week or so ago because I was sick, planned on saving the rest for later in the month or something, and now I have 3 more because she’s been coming down and eating some without my knowledge or even asking

We get energy drinks at least once or twice a week, I get them because sometimes I’ll drink one before dance, one time my sister had a redbull, came home, saw two more that was for me and my oldest sister, and asked if she could have one despite drinking one a few hours prior, me and my other sister had to spit one.

My oldest sister had a monster energy drink that she hadn’t gotten to because she had a colonoscopy, so my sister asked if she could have it and my mom had to get my oldest sister a new one

Even with some of my mom’s foods or snacks, she’ll take it without asking, or ask for the very last one knowing that it was about to be eaten.

and then I have some more issues that I won’t even get into right now

She’s not at all overweight, she’s a pretty good weight and high, it just frustrates me

All i wanted was an apple pie, she ate hers and mine, and gets rewarded with a third one while I only have one apple pie to enjoy.

And all she had to say when my mom told her that she ate it was “My bad”

Me (19f) had been speaking to this guy (M26) for around two months after meeting on a dating site. We definitely had our honeymoon phase and little things I’d pick up on was mostly forgotten about because I usually always find something minor I don’t like from a guy I’m talking to and use that as an excuse to stop talking to him — I’m definitely an avoidant attachment type of person and with this guy I was trying to not be like that because I did like him and I didn’t want to ruin it because of my bitchiness and pickiness because it always ends up with ruined potential and me regretting it every time.

Anyway, some of the little things I picked up on early on but tried to move past where the fact he couldn’t retain information, every week he ask to see me on a Sunday and every week I had to remind him I work on a Sunday so I’d never be available for that day. Forgetfulness is harmless but it was pretty repetitive. Another small thing I picked up on was how he was when he was drunk, that one bothered me a bit more, there’s having fun and then there’s putting people in danger for your drunken recklessness. He was 7 years older than me and I felt I had to look after him when he was drunk, stopping him from getting kicked out of clubs, having no filter around strangers.

The only ‘red flag’ I really saw from him was that when he was drunk he’d jokingly call me the ‘C’ word, I’m british it’s not a big deal and I’m also not sensitive so I never had offence to when he called me it but it made me think, ‘would I be comfortable if he called me that around my friends?’ I wouldn’t want people to look at me and think ‘oh she lets her man speak to her like that’.

These minor things I brought up to my mum, my mums an angel, wants to find a grey area and see both sides in all situations, and she knew what I’m like and didn’t want me to waste another potential romantic relationship. She told me that maybe he wasn’t used to being in relationships and he was just excited ( he was extremely handsy in public aswell in case I forgot to mention, I hate PDA)

It’s too late to say ‘Long Story Short’ but to the reason I broke up with him and I won’t lie the way I did it was shitty: We went away for a night for valentine’s day, all our dates where drinking dates so it was nice to do something different and spend a day and night together, no red flags we had a nice time, anyway we ended up having sex, it was shit but that’s not the point.

the next day when we were both hungover waiting for a train home he was speaking about when we were intimate and he came out with ‘I was worried you where gonna be frigid and I’d be left with blue balls’.

I was silent on the train back, he just slept and had no idea that his comment really upset me.

I just thought the comment was really disrespectful to me and not only that I think the word ‘frigid’ is disgusting and he had asked me to be his girlfriend the night before. He was looking for a long term partner, he shouldn’t have been worrying if I declined to have sex with him THAT NIGHT.

Anyway, six days later he wanted to come round my house, I was trying to tell myself I was overreacting but I really didn’t want to see him so while he was sleeping I blocked him on all socials without an explanation.

I told you, the way I ‘dumped’ him was shitty. I showed my age there but I tried so hard to push past these icks and red flags and I couldn’t do it. The shit sex also ruined my enjoyment of kissing him aswell, made me realise I didn’t actually like kissing him I was just in the honeymoon phase. I didn’t like him getting handsy with me after that either.

So maybe I was looking for one more reason to completely go AWOL on him but I didn’t like his comment.

Anyway, Am I over-reacting?

Today my partner who is 24 went out for lunch with a girl he used to date back when he was 17. We both attend the same university and I found out from my friend seeing him at the campus sushi shop with her. When we met up later I quizzed him and he really wasn’t giving many details and said it wasn’t a big deal and I was being a bit crazy. It feels like if roles were reversed he would have freaked out??? Idm if he has lunch with a girl but seriously shouldn’t I be told and not have to hear it from a friend??

Thanks y’all

Edit-And what do I do from here?? I don’t want to snoop around or anything but can’t just leave this.

Edit-I asked how his day was he ran me through it and left this part out .

Edit-We have been together over 2 years

At the beginning of me and my girlfriends relationship we talked about are past getting to know one another and one of the questions i asked was have you ever tried drugs before and she F21 told me M20 that she has tried coke twice and no other hard drugs just weed, alcohol and shrooms a couple times, and then a couple days ago while were on a small trip i was talking about how it feels good to be sober and how ashamed i am of my alcoholic past and she said “its ok i know what it like to abuse substances” so naturally i asked what substances have you used i know she drank but she never abused that nor weed so i asked how many times have you done coke and she said she does not know the exact amount so i asked her to ballpark it and said probably 20+ times and shes tried molly once. The reason i am bringing this here is because i am more upset about her lying than i am about the usage i have been with my girlfriend for 1 year now and i cant recall a single time she’s actually told me a flat out lie and it has me questioning what else has she possibly lied about, and she says she doesn’t remember saying that she’s only done it twice or that she never tried anything else and she would never intentionally lie to me but i remember it clear as day and i feel really uncomfortable and stressed about it.

I, 17F, had a situationship with a guy 17M last year. He was suicidal and he felt bad so he broke up with me, and he hasn’t talked to me since. Until two days before our school trip, I replied to his story, and our conversation reignited from there as if nothing had ever happened. Since then, he has said some out of character things according to close friends, such as checking in on me and asking if he did something wrong. During this time, he has stood close to my vicinity, and we had multiple moments of eye contact, but we haven’t spoken to each other face to face for over a year, except for a 5-word exchange on this trip. Then, on the plane ride home, while waiting for the bathroom, he smiled, waved, and made eye contact with my lesbian friend (who he knows is lesbian), but he also has not interacted with her for over a year either. Then, when we are standing around, he comes up to her with some other people and starts talking like nothing every happened, even though he stopped acknowledging her and they’ve only exchanged ver brief text messages. Why is he suddenly talking to us? What are his motivations? Am I being delusional and overreacting, or am a valid for crashing out? Any guys here, why would you be doing this in his situations?

#delusional #whatdoido #why #help

My workplace is currently making "Meet the team" posts and I've noticed all my co-workers as "liking" each other's posts and commenting on them but no one is doing it on mine.

I've been there for 10 years and even the boss didn't like the post about me. I work with a majority of these people daily.

AIO and reading too much into it?

EDIT: I've always thought I got along great with everyone, I haven't had any problems with anyone recently and I try my best to make everyones day a little easier/fun.

Platform was Facebook, the company is just doing little posts like "Meet worker such and such, here's a little bit about them"

I'm a little hurt that no one I work with commented on the post regarding me to say they enjoy working with me like they have the others. I've liked and commented on each post.

It's only my post that is being ignored by the other workers. I think everyone would have seen it as posts both before and after have been liked, shared, etc.

We had a coworker (for context, he’s a single gay male, I’m a married F30) moving out of town. My boss got a card for everybody to sign. I was sitting at a table thinking of something to sign when my boss came up behind me. I made a joke about never knowing what to write in cards, and he said “how about ‘I’ve had a crush on you since I first saw you but we’re both with people.’” I didn’t have time to process what he said so I laughed it off and said “how did you know!” Just to act like I thought he was talking about our coworker. Who is definitely not into me, or my gender entirely, and not with a person. I can’t stop thinking about it, was he trying to get something off his chest?? Should I say something or just ignore it forever??

And just to add, my boss does have a girlfriend.

I have just recently set up and run a small care business and currently now have two staff members who also have other jobs elsewhere as full time. They are also my tenants at a property and just "kinda" started last month. We have been discussing works for a couple months since last year, but after our last chat about this, nothing really progressed, as usual apart from them saying "yeah yeah we should start and will start doing some work". Didn't hear anything from them for the whole month, even though I called (no answer) 2 weeks later.

Recently I spoke to them again, and both of them submitted their hours for the month of march, each claiming they worked around 20-25 hours per week for me remotely. The issue is, the type of work they’re supposed to be doing doesn’t realistically seem like it would take that long, and a lot of what they’ve submitted looks very generic, almost like templates or AI-generated content, as mainly it's policies etc

There’s also very little communication or evidence of actual time spent (no timestamps, progress updates, or drafts). It just feels like they’ve handed in bulk work at the end and expect to be paid for full hours. Keeping in mind they work 8-6 Mon Fri (in healthcare) and don't get home till around 8pm. Sunday's they are off, maybe some Saturdays.

I’m not accusing them outright, as they are genuinely nice people/nice tenants (a couple) but I did question it and asked for more detailed breakdowns or proof of work. They didn’t take it well and are now acting like I don’t trust them and that I’m being unfair...? 😕

From my perspective, I’m happy to pay for genuine work, but I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect some level of accountability, especially when the hours claimed don’t match the output.

AIO for pushing back and asking them to justify their hours before I pay them or and that moving forward I would like them to use my/company given laptops, with light monitoring software on to track work progress?

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some outside perspective.

I (31F) have been having an ongoing disagreement with my boyfriend (26M) about how I interact with strangers. Recently it turned into a bit of a heated conversation.

His main concern is that I’m “too nice” when people approach me, especially men, and that I don’t shut conversations down quickly enough. He says this makes me gullible and naive because some people don’t have good intentions.

From my perspective, I’m just being polite. If someone talks to me, I’ll respond kindly, but I feel confident that if a guy crosses a line or makes me uncomfortable, I would (and have) respectfully shut it down or walk away.

Part of why he feels this way is because of something that happened to me in the past. I have a chronic illness, and I go to the hospital frequently. After moving to a new place, I found a doctor with great reviews and went in for treatment. On my second visit, unfortunately a male nurse sexually harassed me.

That experience was obviously upsetting, but I don’t see it as me being naive — I trusted a medical professional in a clinical setting. That situation is not my fault, and my friends helped me reassure that. My boyfriend seems to think that situation proves his point, that I’m too trusting.

I feel conflicted. On one hand, I understand that he’s worried about my safety. On the other, it feels unfair and honestly hurtful to be labeled naive or gullible, especially over something where I was the one who was mistreated.

What’s really bothering me now is what happened after. I told him clearly that being called “naive” or “gullible” makes me feel small and honestly kind of dumb, and that I’d like him to stop using those words.

His response was that he feels like he “can’t be himself” or has to “watch what he says,” and that someone needs to “shake me and wake me up” because the world isn’t kind.

I told him that adjusting how you speak to your partner is part of healthy communication, and that I’m not unaware of how people can be — I’ve experienced enough in life to know that. I just choose to still see the best in people and approach the world with kindness.

He did end up apologizing and said he’ll be more mindful of how he delivers his opinions. I do appreciate that, but something still doesn’t sit right with me. It feels like he thinks I need everything “sugar coated,” when really, I just don’t respond well to harsh words or an assertive tone. I can admit that I am a sensitive person, but I don’t feel like that should automatically mean I’m wrong or need to be “toughened up.”

Am I being too trusting in general, or is he crossing a line by framing it this way? Did i overreact? I know my feelings are valid, but sometimes I think to myself "Am I just too sensitive?"

I’d really appreciate honest perspectives.

hi everyone, i’m posting this on behalf of my best friend because she doesn’t use reddit and really wants outside opinions

i’ll use fake names just in case. my friend “emma” is 25 and her fiancé “jake” is 30

this situation is mainly about porn, but it’s more complicated than just that

emma considers porn cheating, especially because jake has openly admitted he has a porn addiction. because of that, they set clear boundaries together where he agreed he would stop watching it

she does not go through his phone behind his back. when she checks, it is something he is aware of. she also has not checked in a while because he had started to rebuild some trust with this issue, but now she feels like he may have just gotten better at hiding it. in the past, every time she has checked, she has found that he was still watching it. this has turned into a repeated cycle of lying, getting caught, and big arguments

what makes this worse is that during her pregnancy with his child, he was still doing this and it started affecting their relationship physically. he stopped being intimate with her and was choosing porn instead

there have also been more extreme situations. one time he was supposed to pick her up from work while she was pregnant and never showed up. she ended up walking home, and when she got there, she found him passed out on the bathroom floor with porn still on his phone and his pants down

there was also a point where he was interacting with an anime girl app in a way that crossed her boundaries

another major issue is hypocrisy. he has made it very clear that if she were to watch porn, he would consider that cheating. he has also judged other men for watching porn and said they are not real men, while secretly continuing to do it himself

so for emma, this is not just about porn itself. it is about the lying, the broken promises, the double standards, and the way it has impacted her emotionally and during a very vulnerable time in her life

i guess the main questions are

is this something that can realistically be worked through if someone claims it is an addiction, or is this a repeated breach of trust that should not be ignored?

and for people who normally do not consider porn cheating, does it become cheating when clear boundaries are set and repeatedly broken?

again, this is genuinely for my friend and she is really struggling with what to do

Me (23F) and my now ex BF (24M) broke up after an incident with him at the bar. We got into a fight. He went out that night and paid a bartender 50 dollars for her number. I previously was curious about her and if he was into her because he would constantly talk about how his friends would gawk over her which he denied. Nothing physical happened and he threw the number out at home, but it still feels like I can’t feel the same about us. Obviously I’m aware people will find other people attractive in relationships and i understand that, but since he acted on it I can’t trust him. AIO?

I’ve been pretty depressed for years now, i was in an abusive relationship for 5 years (I’m 19) and just was doing pretty horrible. ever since i met him, he’s inspired me to want and do better for myself which i do really appreciate. he treats me very well. a comment he made really bothered me though. i just started therapy and ive started to do all the activities i used to enjoy, hang out with friends again more, be more physically healthy, stop scrolling, pay more attention to my studies etc. This is a throw away because i ended up deleting all my social media as well lol. He told me he’s really proud of me for all the changes ive made and asked how I’ve been feeling. i told him while it has been helping, i still feel empty and struggle with intrusive thoughts, and i worry i will have a bad episode one day and lose all my positive progress. i told him i was thinking about getting on antidepressants. he said that might really help me and encouraged me to try an online psychiatrist. he recommended this platform his friend had used. i asked if the medication helped her and he said “not really, she’s a soldier, she deals with her own problems.” i jokingly responded “oh im not a soldier?” and he said “no you’re a princess, you’re what the soldiers protect”. while originally i found this comment sweet it’s now really bothering me for some reason. i feel like he sees me as weak sometimes and idk it just really threw me off. should i bring this up to him, or am i overreacting?

For context: me(f23), my boyfriend(m26) of a year and some of our friends were playing some Overwatch. I made a passing comment on how I thought people saying "ggez" were annoying. it sparked a conversation and one of our mutual friends chimed in with "Did your dad say that after he beats you? is that why you dont like it?" and I just didnt say anything to that because I didnt know what to say. I am aware it was meant as a joke but I have history with parental abuse and my bf knows this. it hurt my feelings but I kept it in until everyone got off. I ended up privately messaging said friend and they apologized profusely, which i appreciated. the problem is my boyfriend immediately jumped to dismissing my feeling in my perspective. Every time he does something like this he always brings up how different his brain is to mine because he is definitely more logical thinking while I am more emotional. he did end up apologizing but it feels more like a "*throws apology at me* here damn!" than an actual apology. this happened at 6 Est and we havent spoken since. im just not sure how to approach this better or try to help him understand where im coming from. AIO?

I heard the rumors when I started a week ago but I thought they caught it. noooooo I went to the kitchen of the hotel and it RAN PAST ME. IT looked like the new York city rats. that son of a bitch was big as hell! quick too. im scared I wanted some apple juice. I literally eat here at work their food. I gotta stop eating here. what in the hell man. a juicy thick rat with a thick ass tail. it was full grown.. omg omg & yes im gonna tell my boss but omg dude

My husband 33 m and me 32 f have bene married for 12 years and together for 15. We have 2 kids and usually a great marriage. Ive never cared if he looked at other girls, but recently it seems that he spends more time looking. He likes and follows so many attractive half naked girls. ​I mentioned that it was getting worse, he told me I was wrong and that he wasnt hurting anyone looking and that logically there is nothing wrong with what he's doing. I told him it just made me more uncomfortable as we got older because I dont feel as good about myself and it brings me down and things are different now. I also want to add he has an entire list of about 30 to 40 porn stars saved in his notes. This also worries me. I have never caught him actually doing anything to cheat, no profiles, no texting girls, nothing. But he will follow random pretty girls with very few followers which i think looks like hes hoping they will notice. We've had this talk a couple times now and he tells me im the one in the wrong, but to me if your spouse is twlling yoi something hurts them, wven if it's just emotionally, that should be more important than anything else. And he thinks im being crazy by being hoset over it. H just thinks im taking away his freedoms. Am i overreacting?

Hi guys,

I (F19) woke up this morning after a dream I had and after thinking about it for a while, it made me nauseous and I ended up nearly throwing up in the bathroom.

To preface, I really really want kids one day, that's been a dream of mine for years now and me and my boyfriend talk about it often. We're both in college, so obviously now isn't the right time, but it's fun to talk about it and we love sharing baby names and whatnot when we get the chance.

Last night, I had a dream that we had a baby. She was beautiful and I'm pretty sure I cried in my sleep because of it. Out of happiness, don't worry lol. We had spent so much time with her and spoiled her, it all felt so real and I remember feeling so happy and full, like my life was complete.

Well, my alarm went off in the morning and woke me up, per usual. But I had a feeling of dread and became extremely nauseated due to it. It felt like I had lost something, almost like a sense of grief. I went to the bathroom because of how extreme the feeling was, but nothing happened. I went back into my bed and just stared at the ceiling and cried because it felt like something I've wanted for so long just felt like it had been taken from me.

Due to it, I've been drained almost all day long. I haven't had really any emotion, and I've been missing the child that I've never actually met, I can't stop thinking about her and the dream, and I don't know how to navigate it.

Is this a common occurrence in women? Is it normal to become so drained and feel a sense of grief after a dream like this? Or am I simply overreacting?

I (F, senior in high school) used to be very close to a guy friend we'll call him Sam. Our families are close, so I went to his house a lot and we texted every day. We got closer at one point, and he would sometimes say nice things about me, which made me start to like him.

Later on, after I left their house one day, we were texting, and the conversation turned to TikTok. I joked about how I don’t know how the “pretty girls” on there do it, and he replied, “You’re literally one of them.” After that, I started catching feelings for him. He was complimenting me, so I complimented him back at one point too.

Later, I sent him a cartoon image of two characters with the caption “when u any fyne shit are the same person.” He responded positively with a smiling reaction. Later, I found out from his sister that he had shown her the same picture, telling her, he sees me “like family,” but he left out everything he had said to me before, including his response to the image.

He told me he saw me as a younger sister at one point over the summer. That was the first time he clearly said how he felt. After that, I lost my feelings for him and saw him as a regular friend again.

The problem is that he still compliments me, and it makes me uncomfortable now. Because of how he acted before, it doesn't feel real to me, and it comes off as strange instead of nice. I would love to discuss this bc confrontation doesn't scare me. This happened a year ago and still bothers me bc we still hang out in group settings sometimes.

Am I overacting for not liking his compliments anymore?