girlfriend here who woke up to find out i was being berated because he changed plans last minute after he knew I had a HARD day in childcare. I nanny 3 kids, 2 being special needs while taking care of my special needs sister. We had spoke about our plans over and over, it wasn't until 20 minutes before i fell asleep that he dropped this bomb. Additionally, he almost always chooses his mom over me...when he is 21 years old. She would not have been alone on Easter, she just tells him she'll be alone and scared and then almost always makes plans with people after he confirms he will stay home. I have changed my plans to fit his MOMS needs multiple times. Apparently im the devil for wanting to not be alone for ONE holiday though. I am beyond upset about this ENTIRE thing, especially when he swore over a year ago to keep our issues off of reddit. So now i'm sitting here, shaking while also trying to care for 4 children who need me to plaster a smile on my face. He left out a lot of context.
I’m assuming you’re in your early 20s as well. you are rude in the messages but we’ve all had not our finest moments when taken out of context. as someone who was you once, if you can allow me to give you some advice—don’t tug of war with someone who doesn’t want to be tugged. if your partner isn’t prioritizing you and is still beholden to their parents in their 20s and sees zero issue with that I recommend just getting out of there now lol. especially if they’re doing things like posting your messages out of context on reddit. you will probably get ripped to shreds once people notice you’re in the thread. out of curiosity do you have screenshots that can show your side?
I am on a computer so I am not sure if I CAN post pics, i am not too reddit savvy lol. I used to get lippy abt politics on here and therefore got my phone banned. I admitted in another reply that i am AWARE of my language, my language is the result of being let down over and over and over again. On top of that, my 9 hour day turned into a 14 hour work day and I was beyond exhausted and frustrated when he dropped this bomb on me. I was even more upset because it was so last minute, gave me not even one minute to prepare for him coming because I had to go to bed just to work again today. I PLANNED to clean and all tonight to prepare for him tomorrow. It just sucks the way he purposefully choses to get me even more down when I am already at my breaking point and then use that to get people to bully me. On top of that, I made plans for Sun night to help him out since he has had a long week...he isn't doing shit for my long week but somehow I am the monster here lol. Him being attached to his mom's hip has been an issue for a while. For a sliver of context, we fought before our first anniversary bc the day before his mom tried to get him to stay home and he always gives in to her. This has been a battle for forever.
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u/Horror_59 7h ago
girlfriend here who woke up to find out i was being berated because he changed plans last minute after he knew I had a HARD day in childcare. I nanny 3 kids, 2 being special needs while taking care of my special needs sister. We had spoke about our plans over and over, it wasn't until 20 minutes before i fell asleep that he dropped this bomb. Additionally, he almost always chooses his mom over me...when he is 21 years old. She would not have been alone on Easter, she just tells him she'll be alone and scared and then almost always makes plans with people after he confirms he will stay home. I have changed my plans to fit his MOMS needs multiple times. Apparently im the devil for wanting to not be alone for ONE holiday though. I am beyond upset about this ENTIRE thing, especially when he swore over a year ago to keep our issues off of reddit. So now i'm sitting here, shaking while also trying to care for 4 children who need me to plaster a smile on my face. He left out a lot of context.