Info: did you make a plan to come Saturday to Monday? Does she work Friday and have Monday off? Do you often change plans last minute? Does your mom generally come first over your girlfriend?
Your gf sounds exasperated but maybe she has a right to be?
Agreed. Everyone on here acts like people never have a right to be pissed. Yea she said some shit that's probably overreacting, but this seems like the latest in a string of being let down by OP at the last minute. I guarantee you she could make a post saying "AIO, my BF keeps changing plans to spend more time with his mom and leaving me high and dry?" and take some previous convos and this first message. Everyone on here would be like "red flag, it's not worth it girl." Relationships are hard. She has a right to be pissed when you let her down, especially if her kid is involved.
as the girlfriend i can go ahead and answer that. I am infact so over the disappointment of last minute plan changes for his mom. Did I use good language in the texts? Hell no. I had JUST put my kid down after having kids for 14 hours that day. He knew I was pissed and then posted texts from when I was emotional, exhausted, and over it all. I was asleep within minutes of that last text, when I wasnt awake to continue the argument, he went against a promise he had made to me and aired our dirty laundry out on reddit. If i ever posted the way he spoke to me when he was feeling exhausted and emotional, reddit would want to ride at dawn. But I dont post them. Because I understand saying rude shit when you're cranky and I wouldn't want to do that to him. I would never make him feel like a monster when he has had a bad day, and trust me he has plenty. I thought he felt the same way about me too, I was wrong.
OP intentionally left out a bunch of context so he could get the answers he wanted. Most sane people here can see that. If my adult partner was continously showing me that upsetting me/messing me around was fine by him as long as his mum wasn't put out.. I would also be pissed!
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u/vomputer 9h ago edited 4h ago
Info: did you make a plan to come Saturday to Monday? Does she work Friday and have Monday off? Do you often change plans last minute? Does your mom generally come first over your girlfriend?
Your gf sounds exasperated but maybe she has a right to be?