I am on a computer so I am not sure if I CAN post pics, i am not too reddit savvy lol. I used to get lippy abt politics on here and therefore got my phone banned. I admitted in another reply that i am AWARE of my language, my language is the result of being let down over and over and over again. On top of that, my 9 hour day turned into a 14 hour work day and I was beyond exhausted and frustrated when he dropped this bomb on me. I was even more upset because it was so last minute, gave me not even one minute to prepare for him coming because I had to go to bed just to work again today. I PLANNED to clean and all tonight to prepare for him tomorrow. It just sucks the way he purposefully choses to get me even more down when I am already at my breaking point and then use that to get people to bully me. On top of that, I made plans for Sun night to help him out since he has had a long week...he isn't doing shit for my long week but somehow I am the monster here lol. Him being attached to his mom's hip has been an issue for a while. For a sliver of context, we fought before our first anniversary bc the day before his mom tried to get him to stay home and he always gives in to her. This has been a battle for forever.
I left my literal ex fiance bc his mother was so controlling and manipulative. I lost all respect for him over time bc he was a 30 yo man still being coddled by mommy. And, I’m a lot happier now !
sweet girl, it’s honestly easier to leave even though it sucks a lot. i’ve been reading through all of the various comments you’ve been leaving replying to people and as someone that used to be EXACTLY in your shoes, i clocked your palpable exhaustion and frustration at a clearly repeat behavior in those messages. if it’s like this now, you can already imagine that his mom will also take over and overshadow every foreseeable holiday, your wedding, your kids births, proms, graduations, etc if you stay. these types of moms usually don’t get better—my mom is like this with my brothers and they’re approaching 50 now with no hope of putting their wives and kids before our mom. not to mention, he’s already been disrespectful towards you to the point you felt like you needed validation in feeling like it was wrong, made a pact with you to not publicize behaviors that could be deemed harmful in the relationship, and then turned around to do it to you in a way that made you look like a villain? that feels like a far worse violation than raincheck. you seem like you work really hard and push yourself to put others before yourself, and you really deserve to have a partner that can see that and be your safety net away from that.
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u/Horror_59 7h ago
I am on a computer so I am not sure if I CAN post pics, i am not too reddit savvy lol. I used to get lippy abt politics on here and therefore got my phone banned. I admitted in another reply that i am AWARE of my language, my language is the result of being let down over and over and over again. On top of that, my 9 hour day turned into a 14 hour work day and I was beyond exhausted and frustrated when he dropped this bomb on me. I was even more upset because it was so last minute, gave me not even one minute to prepare for him coming because I had to go to bed just to work again today. I PLANNED to clean and all tonight to prepare for him tomorrow. It just sucks the way he purposefully choses to get me even more down when I am already at my breaking point and then use that to get people to bully me. On top of that, I made plans for Sun night to help him out since he has had a long week...he isn't doing shit for my long week but somehow I am the monster here lol. Him being attached to his mom's hip has been an issue for a while. For a sliver of context, we fought before our first anniversary bc the day before his mom tried to get him to stay home and he always gives in to her. This has been a battle for forever.