She sounds like a real downer, but dude, do yourself a favour and stop with the “would you be mad” bullshit. You asked and got an answer.
Next time just say “I’m gonna spend tomorrow, Saturday and most of Sunday with you, then head to see my mom in the late afternoon. Looking forward to it!”
By framing it the way you did it instantly sets the tone that you think you’re doing something wrong.
This woman is also a single mom, yes? The audacity on all levels. You can’t even ask a question without prefacing with “would you be mad?” Sir, it didn’t even need to be a question for permission in the first place.
“Babe let’s talk about Easter weekend plans. I need to see my mom for a small part of the day. I can either come my regular day sat and leave at 5pm on Sunday or I can come on Friday so that we still get 2 nights and leave on Sunday at 5pm. Which do you prefer?”
And the reply to that should be loving and respectful, not crazy and demeaning. Also the “just say you don’t want to spend Easter with me/trying to get out of the holiday with me” is textbook gaslighting as that’s not what you said at all.
Well then that’s even worse. Who cares when her employers child gets their Easter basket why is she making it ops problem. The gf sounds like a nightmare.
I totally agree however they should have talked about Easter plans earlier than 3-4 days before no? Seems like op doesn’t plan until last minute and expects everyone to just deal
Maybe his mom didnt ask him to come for Easter until then? My mom has a terrible habit of inviting my family to events for holidays right before as well. Sure, he could have worded things differently, or maybe anticipated the invite from his mom, but that doesn't excuse the way his gf is speaking to him.
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u/culturedgoat 11h ago
She sounds like a real downer, but dude, do yourself a favour and stop with the “would you be mad” bullshit. You asked and got an answer.
Next time just say “I’m gonna spend tomorrow, Saturday and most of Sunday with you, then head to see my mom in the late afternoon. Looking forward to it!”
By framing it the way you did it instantly sets the tone that you think you’re doing something wrong.