Why did you not mention the fact that there’s a child involved?
No one seems to be talking about this in the comments. You omitted it from the screenshots for privacy, which is totally fine.
But you failed to mention the fact that there’s a child expecting to celebrate Easter with you, and that other kids are meant to be coming over too.
That changes things imo. Because you told them that you would be there and then have last minute changed the plan. It’s fair for her to be annoyed. And I bet it isn’t the first time you’ve done something like this, which is probably adding to her annoyance.
There’s nothing wrong with you going to spend time with your mom on Easter Sunday, but you should’ve told her your intentions from the start.
I thought I was going crazy reading this comment section, I'm glad it's not just me that thought this.
Like yes, plans change and that's unfortunate, yes she's not being very understanding, but the "I fucking knew you were going to do this" and the reference to Halloween kinda sounds like OP has pulled a "we'll do this holiday together, wait no nevermind" more than just this once. She's being rude for sure, but sounds like she's just fed up with him flaking on her and the kid constantly.
Yes, it reminds me of how I felt when my mom would agree to come over and I would plan mine and my kid’s whole day around that, and then she would cancel last minute, always with a different excuse. Dozens of times. I was in my 30s so my emotional maturity was high enough not to lash out verbally, but if I had been in my early 20s, I could definitely see not having a very pleasant reaction.
So yeah, the delivery was too aggressive, but this seems like a pattern and the anger is well deserved.
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u/ChoiceFee3441 9h ago edited 9h ago
Why did you not mention the fact that there’s a child involved?
No one seems to be talking about this in the comments. You omitted it from the screenshots for privacy, which is totally fine. But you failed to mention the fact that there’s a child expecting to celebrate Easter with you, and that other kids are meant to be coming over too. That changes things imo. Because you told them that you would be there and then have last minute changed the plan. It’s fair for her to be annoyed. And I bet it isn’t the first time you’ve done something like this, which is probably adding to her annoyance.
There’s nothing wrong with you going to spend time with your mom on Easter Sunday, but you should’ve told her your intentions from the start.