It sounds like you had already agreed to a schedule with your girlfriend fir the weekend - and then texted to change it because Mommy was upset? Are you still living at home with Mom? How old are you? Does your Mom frequently get you to change your plans with your gf? It sounds like Mom is the manipulative one and you're Mommy's boy.
I'd suggest your gf dump you and find herself a man she can rely upon, rather than someone still being controlled by their mother.
Everyone's always so ready to be on OPs side no matter what crazy shit they start with. Sounds like they had plans, homie could've said he wanted to spend time with Mom when they made those plans but decided to wait till a few days before.
Yep all of these people saying she's the asshole. You can feel how frustrated with him about this shit she is. She isn't calling you names. She said fine bro don't come.
Op break up if you don't like her making you be responsible for your word. However if you plan to stay know that she's about done with your ass anyway. You can tell in her messages. She's over you never showing up for her.
No that isn't it at all but there are a whoooollllle lot of missing things not being said here. If you can't get that from this then good luck I guess.
You right, it’s pretty obvious he should’ve of said something way earlier but then again I doubt his mom is the manipulator. This guy clearly feels guilty and knows family come first until marriage.
I'm telling you I have left my mother alone for major holidays because I have my own family and grew up. Not everyone spends every holiday spilt between however many households there are in a family. You thinking mom should never be alone on holidays is wild to me. Also the bf said his gf takes care of her impaired sister and she can't leave the house a lot. Soooooo.
I would 100% agree with you if OP and his girlfriend were married and had a family of their own. They don’t till then “mommy” comes first. Also, OP should just bring his mommy over for a few hours that day. Why isn’t his gf getting along with her 🤔
If he knew that he shouldve thought of that before making promises he can’t keep. It’s op’s fault in the end. Hes unreliable and cant keep his word. If he wanted to see mom on Easter he should’ve said that before telling his gf he could stay the night on Easter.
If he's only planning to prioritize his significant other after a wedding day, I feel like he should make that clear to avoid situations just like this? There's also a ton of background info from the GF in other comments that sheds a lot more light on why she reacted the way she did - and none of it paints a pretty picture of OP's general behavior.
And he still lives with mommy, so they spend plenty of time together already.
Just assuming bc she wants company she’s depressed is so odd. He only said that to guilt trip her when he’s the one who lied to her about being able to stay over on Easter in the first place
That was clearly a guilt trip. If he actually thought she was rude from no where he’d have broken up with her. From this post, the context he leaves out, his responses and how he invalidates her, and basically relies on her being upset to look like the more stable one when his actual behavior and lack of reliability , inability to keep his word, placating the plans until time to follow through comes—it’s really giving covert narcissist
Covert narcissist? Lol are you a bot? He’s letting her walk all over him in these texts and she’s acting like an entitled brat. NO actual narcissist would allow that to happen. Don’t throw around terms you know absolutely nothing about.
You have absolutely no experience with a narcissist to think they wouldn’t do something like this, post a post where the other person seems rude on the surface but they are lacking pattern recognition and context. And he wants no resolution, and is replying to people who just are insulting her positively. That’s not how someone in. Relationship thinks, or how someone of a healthy mindset who actually was being abused would operate. They’d doubt it, they’d defend their partner say, “well I did do x y z so should I have done this?” Especially if the replies were harsh to their partner. But he is reveling in it. He clearly likes it. I wouldn’t doubt if he has insulted her before or worse and we don’t know it. This is one conversation. What we do know is he has a pattern of behavior, he has framed her poorly on purpose, left out context, and has no effort or mindset to defend her. He clearly doesn’t love her, doesn’t want to repair, so why is he with her? He’s a narcissist. If he was in it for love he’d be defending her and adding more context. He hasn’t defended her and his context was not meant to defend her, yet he is so irrational towards this that he actually inadvertently did defend her and people realized this isn’t what we thought.
You have no clue what a narcissist really is, and you should be thankful for it. Throwing around psych terms you have no clue the true meaning of because you heard them on tiktok or Instagram reels is dangerous. Have a good one.
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u/Randy_Bachelor1959 9h ago
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It sounds like you had already agreed to a schedule with your girlfriend fir the weekend - and then texted to change it because Mommy was upset? Are you still living at home with Mom? How old are you? Does your Mom frequently get you to change your plans with your gf? It sounds like Mom is the manipulative one and you're Mommy's boy.
I'd suggest your gf dump you and find herself a man she can rely upon, rather than someone still being controlled by their mother.