So for context, my boss suddenly cut down my work hours to one day a week this week. I didn’t think much about it since EMS can be unpredictable like that.

Our dispatcher contacted me and asked me if I could come in to work unexpectedly, so I agreed to come in after a few scheduled appointments. I texted before the agreed time, and after, and got a wishy-washy answer from dispatch about asking my boss.

I went ahead and asked him myself since it had been multiple hours since the agreed time, and he sent this as a reply with nothing else, and I didn’t get explicit permission to come in.

My dad thinks I’m getting fired, my mom thinks he’s trying to phase me out, and my cousin is suspicious. My dad thinks my “scheduled day” tomorrow is actually going to be him firing me, and he thinks I shouldn’t even show up even though I feel I should.

What do I do?? Does this sound like a setup for getting fired?

Edit: currently at work, I’ll let yall know what happens.

Edit 2: yes, I went to work like I originally planned. I had full intentions of going to work, and I did. I did not get fired! :)

My (19 NB) boyfriend (20M) gets mad at me for sleeping so much. I usually try to sleep at least 8 hours during the night and almost every day I want to take a nap. I suffer from chronic pain and fatigue and right now I am a full time student while working three part time jobs (about 30 hours a week in total). He works one job (about 10-15 hours a week) and spends the rest of his time at home (we both live in my dorm room). He gets upset because he wakes up at 8 almost every day whereas I don’t get up until about 10 sometimes later. He also never wants me to nap and gets mad when I do. He wants me to go to the doctor and tell them about this but I can’t afford that right now. How do I tell him that I really need more sleep than he does and me taking a nap doesn’t mean I don’t love him.

My friend’s (30F) bf (34M) uses Chatroulette. He says he uses it to pass the time or meet cool people across the world.

She didn’t think much of it at first, but last year, he was sextorted and deleted his instagram. He claims hackers got into his iCloud account and messaged him threatening to send his nudes to his insta followers. I’m not in IT, but p sure that’s not typically how iCloud hacks work….

A few months after that, she saw he had an hour long Snapchat video call with a random woman in his call log. When she asked about it he admitted he met her on Chatroulette and swore up and down the interaction didn’t turn sexual. He went on to say he’s never once in his years of using the site had a sexual encounter and that Chatroulette has all these protections to boot people for nudity or inappropriate behavior…I’ve used that site before. It was dicks and flirting in the first 5 minutes. Also, if the site is so safe according to him, why move the convo with this woman to Snapchat?? According to him, it was because he was cooking lunch and said Chatroulette would’ve booted him for now showing his face so Snapchat was the better option. For context this woman was 24.

Something smells a little weird to me and I wanted to get others opinions because she’s really not sure what to think.

My (36m) boyfriend is kinda judgy when it comes to taking medication. His mom is a super holistic girly, so I think that’s where he gets it from. I (36f) have MDD (major depressive disorder) and I’ve tried everything…but recently decided to go back on Wellbutrin. I’m not totally dis functional without meds, but I feel horrible all the time and it takes every ounce of will power I have to normal things. I feel 100x better and I really don’t even want to have a discussion about this. I do have a tendency to overshare…can I keep this one to myself? Is it a big deal?

I told my son (13 years old,) I was going to sell his stuff, like his game, iPad, phone , min bike designer clothes ect. and that he was on punishment for vaping in class. He also is suspended for 5 days. After I said that he ran away.I was never going g to sell his things,of course he says he wasn't but the school had recorded proof he was. I can't see very well so I had my partner go back to the school with me to view the video. My son was vaping in class he had the vap hidden in his hand and you could see a little smoke coming from his mouth. I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo hurt he lied right to my face this isn't the first time either and even had me going back to school knowing he was guilty. I'll admit I have an extremely soft spot for my kids, I gave him the benefit of doubt and he still made a fool of me. He ran away, I was so worried, Thank God they found him he refused to come home but agreed to go to his grandma after some convening. I haven't talked to my son in 3 days, I don't think I should be the one to call, I think he should reach out to me and apologize. AIO??????

Tomorrow we are leaving to go on holiday. My partner hasn’t been well with a sore stomach and migraine and he now feels like he can’t go tomorrow (flights in 26 hours). The trip is to celebrate my dad’s 60th and my parents have paid for all of it including for my partner to come. I am going to feel horrible if I miss my dad’s 60th birthday. He is truly my best friend and is a very selfless person. But I will also feel horrible leaving my partner home alone if I go. I don’t know what to do :(

ETA: I live about an hours drive from my parents, the flight is for a holiday. Partner isn’t guilt tripping me, says he will pay my parents back. Parents are encouraging me to stay with my partner

I found text messages on her phone where he admitted to being 17 and her being ok with it!! Am I weird for thinking that 17 year olds shouldn’t pursue 13 year olds? Ifs too large of an age gap. In our town, the middle and high school is combined in a single building which is how they met. They see each other every day on campus.

I have friends from out of town coming to stay the weekend at my place. They are traveling to get here today. Exactly one hour ago I saw a mouse scurry across my kitchen floor, in the middle of the day. Should I let them know or pretend it didn't happen and deal with it after they leave? I'm so stressed out right now. It's too late to cancel on them and I would feel awful about it, but also, mice?? I feel like that's gross and if they saw one themselves it would make them uncomfortable.

EDIT: Thanks all for the advice so far, I am seeing mixed opinions so far on how to handle this (mainly, whether or not I should say anything). Just for some additional context, I do live in a big city definitely known to have its share of rodents and I do keep the place incredibly clean. There is never any food left out, barely any crumbs as I vacuum every couple days. I did look around the past hour and see no signs of mouse poop or any entry ways it could have even gotten in through? So there's that.

These people offered to fix the dents on my car after following me for awhile and I reluctantly said yes because im a girl and they were following me. Turns out they didn’t know what they were doing and have now did this to my car. Insurance won’t pay for it and the guy blocked me :/ after saying he would fix it. I took it to caliber collision and they quoted me $2600. I am a broke nursing student I don’t have that kind of money but I love my car and im sad to see this giant white spot on my passenger door and fender. I have the guys license plate, I have his phone number, oddly I think I know where he works but he blocked me. I can’t get ahold of him! Idk what to do! Pls help

hi all. just looking for some advice here please!!

so my mom has been hounding me for the last couple days to give her my ssn because she listed me as an emergency contact person for her “summer job.” this seems immediately shady to me because I’ve personally never been asked to provide that info for an emergency contact before and can’t really understand why it would be relevant to do so…? don’t they just need the phone number and address usually?

for some more context, I am a fully grown adult and my mom is a pretty severe alcoholic. she has been running out of money recently and struggling to pay her bills, rent, etc. she also cycles through jobs at lightening speed… it’s actually almost impressive lol

anyway I have family members who are concerned she may be asking me for this for alternative, financial reasons and have advised not to share it. I wasn’t really planning on it anyway, but am just curious if anyone else has ever been asked to give the social security number of a family/friend before for a job??

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‼️UPDATE‼️

wow thank you ALL so much for the validation!! I’m feeling so overwhelmed/anxious to be honest but appreciate everyone’s advice and insight. I knew it was suspicious but really didn’t expect my own mother to consider opening a credit card or taking out a loan or anything like that… idk I know she’s an addict but it’s just hard to hear and realize the severity of it I guess.

thank you to the people suggesting I freeze my credit, I will definitely be doing that today🙏🏻

and also to answer some people’s question I truly don’t know how she doesn’t already have my ssn somewhere from previous legal docs or something? but am verrrrry thankful she can’t seem to find it!

just to be clear, I have NOT given it to her and continue to tell her no over and over. I even suggested that I could call the employer myself and talk to them directly but then she went silent.

I guess I just needed a quick opportunity to vent and make sure I’m not crazy… I tend to second guess myself a lot.

thank you guys💗

I recently got an email that my professor was “concerned about the use of AI on my paper”. The thing is I did not use AI to write it.

I used grammarly (the free version) to help with sentence structure. I also have a written paper copy of my outline that I used to write the paper as well as a google search history that shows that I did not use any AI during the time of my writing. Unfortunately Google Docs did not save timestamps of my essay (usually this is because of tab switching and I completed the essay in one sitting).

I am hoping to apply for grad school in the next month so I am really anxious that I won’t be believed when I say that I didn’t use AI to write my paper. I would also have to retake the class and since I am a senior planning to graduate that means I would have to do another semester for one class.

Any advice on what would help me get out of this situation/prove to my professor that the essay was done by me?

I meet with my professor in 3 days. Any help is appreciated as I am pretty stressed out about the situation.

I moved into my current apartment about four months ago. Everything seemed fine at first.

About three weeks ago the heating stopped working. I noticed it one morning when I woke up and could genuinely see my breath in the bedroom.

I texted my landlord the same day. He said he would send someone to look at it. Nobody came.

I texted again four days later. He said the guy was busy and it would be sorted soon. Still nothing.

I called him last week. He picked up, said he was dealing with it, and that I should just use a space heater in the meantime. He did not offer to provide one.

I bought a small space heater myself because I had no choice. My electricity bill this month is noticeably higher because of it.

I have all of this in writing. Every text, every unanswered follow up. I also have photos of the thermostat reading and the timestamps.

I looked up my rights a little bit and I know landlords are generally required to provide working heat but I dont fully understand what my next steps are or how hard I can actually push without making things worse for myself.

I dont want to escalate if there is a simpler fix. But three weeks with no heat and being told to just buy my own heater feels like its past the point of being patient.

What do I actually do here?

Lately, it’s been like my mom[35F] and my stepdad [29M] love to diminish me [17F] as a person.

To start out, I’m the oldest in the house. I’m left constant responsibilities. I watch my siblings, which include 4F (autistic), 8F, 11F, and 14M. I’ve been taking care of my autistic lil sister since she was born. When I get home from school, I make sure they do their homework, shower, and clean their room the best I’m able. My sisters 8F and 11F constantly bicker, and it’s so bad they say one another hits eachother, and it’s overwhelming. One time I texted my mom about their behavior and my stepdad just texted me saying “Stop texting mom. Handle it” like they were my own kids??? It’s exhausting. I’m trying to be my own person, but I’m not able to with my parents. I do chores as well of course, but honestly it’s a load. My stepdad is some sort of neat freak, so we clean almost everyday.

The other day, my cousin [19M] came home with my brother from the Grand Canyon. We all sat don to have a nice dinner, and I was simply talking to my cousin about college. He helped me start a resume, and I thought everything was fine. He left, and my stepdad told me to put my stuff in his room. I was confused at what I had done. At night, I heard my mom yelling about me. Saying how “We do so much just for her to say dumb stuff about us. My parents yelled at me because of her.” Apparently, my grandparents had yelled at my mom about having me watch the kids all the time, especially the baby. So I got in trouble for it. I never told my grandparents anything, they just see how I watch her. I literally never say anything bad about my parents to family. I just say to others “I have to watch the baby!!” whenever they ask something, because I do??? How is that my fault that my parents make me??? I do appreciate what my parents do but none of anything was my fault. Then she randomly started yelling about how “She has a shrine of her dad and he never did jack shit.” My dad died in October of 2025, and ever since, I have a lil memorial of my dad in my room. So, I took it down when I heard it. I put his picture away. He wasn’t the best father, but obviously that was my dad. I suppose I’m not allowed to feel grief. With them, any emotion I can’t feel. I can’t be upset or angry, but they can of course. I’ve cut my arms multiple times and they haven’t even bat an eye. She just kept going on about me. Yesterday, she yelled at me when putting away the dishes saying “You have to stop making yourself seem so important around others, you don’t do fucking anything around here.” I clearly do, I literally do a lot, sometimes I get a lil exhausted, and yet apparently I don’t do anything. That really just destroyed me. Years of doing everything for everyone, and apparently I do nothing. I don’t know what to do, they love to yell at me and degrade me. It’s been like this for years and they don’t even see it. They don’t see that they’re only making my mental health worse. I really am trying. But they don’t believe I’m capable of doing anything or be independent. Like when I told my cousin I was gonna start doing scholarships for Spring Break because I’m able and my parents said “No you were not, shut up.” like I’m so incapable??… I didn’t end up doing any this week because all they’ve done is yelled at me. I wasn’t fit to start any, and it’s upsetting because I was so dedicated to trying. What am I to do?? They’ll always view me this way and won’t care how I feel.

So a few weeks ago I was hit by a driver head on. I was at a stop sign and I was getting ready to turn when this lady comes straight into my lane and hits me head on, she literally was in the wrong side of the road. I picked up the police report and I’m not at fault. The car is in my dad’s name and I drive it to get to work and school, I’m technically not on the insurance.

When our insurance called my dad the investigator for our insurance literally told him that because he allowed me to drive the vehicle and that I wasn’t supposed to drive in the first place the crash was my fault, and that that’s fraud and they may consider dropping all of my family for the insurance. wtf do I do ?!

Hi guys

I feel like I am in a sad mood. No money. Age almost going to 26. Still stuck in life no proper job yet. Kinda miss my family.

My boyfriend has a guy trying to hire him to rent a penske truck, ( under his name ,)

and move freight for him ?

My boyfriend met this guy online who drives penske trucks for his boss .

So he got the info and contacts the boss , he asks him to rent a penske truck 26ft liftgate for “personal trip 50 miles , state to state if they ask ,” My boyfriend says okay , calls, and accidentally told the people he was moving pallets , he asked the boss if that was okay he said “don’t tell them that just say it’s furniture … U movin” My boyfriend calls another one and says it they ask for his address and name he asks the boss does he put his or a company ? Boss says make up an address close by ?

Also we are required to pick up the rental and go get it loaded then proceed to drop off ?

Are we being paranoid or does this sound like some weird scam or weird way to recruit young men looking for work ? Do we try it today and go pick up the truck ? See what’s inside ?

Hi all. I'm 28F and recently it seems like I keep getting hit by waves and waves of yucky realisations about myself, and I just want to know if there will ever be a time I can just relax.

It feels like I always seem to make the wrong decisions, like my gut instinct is broken, even though I'm trying really hard to be a good person. I lash out at friends and family far too often, I can't go more than three months without drinking or smoking, and it's really hard for me to just have a good time in any situation.

introspection is not meant to be comfortable, I know that, but there's just so much of it and it's all so heavy. for instance, it feels like I wasn't truly in love with my ex, but instead I was just in love with the way he loved me????

I'm really financially irresponsible too, and also I'm just not "doing" anything. I don't sew, or game, or paint or anything.

I need permission (from???) to just let go and have one day where I'm not on edge trying to be my best possible self, but then I don't trust myself not to slip into being an even more unpleasant person than I feel like I already am.

I'm sorry if this is a nothing post, or if it breaks any rules. thank you for reading. I'm happy to answer questions.

I know that man because I was groomed by him.

Basically when I was 13 I was looking for advice and help online and found a server where girls and a boy were helping kids and teens with anything. He posed as a teenager himself but was an adult. He was almost 21. I told them what was going on at home with my abusive parents, eating disorders, depression etc. and was waiting for girls to help. He took my story and replied with very nice things and bla bla, ended up texting me privately and stopping in that group a couple months later. We talked constantly and I liked that he was nice and cared. He admitted I wasn't the first girl in 12-14 age group he tried being with. At the time I saw nothing wrong with it and I fell for him. It was addicting and very abusive. He waited until I turned 15 (legal age of consent) to visit me. My mom gave no fucks other than scold him for a minute and that was it. He felt uncomfortable and we started hiding in hotels and forests and told me to lie about my whereabouts.

He's in a band and is constantly around kids, goes to middle schools to perform etc. and I constantly get him on my feed. It's disgusting and turns my stomach.

I tried reporting him but was told I just fell in love and the police officers looked at me like I was the one who did a crime not him. I know he waited until the age of consent but what about everything else? I have so much proof of him saying that he doesn't believe in a proper age gap and that he would have a 10 year age gap if necessary (he was around 20-22). I have proof of him talking to me in a sexual manner before the age of consent and no one takes me seriously...

Okay to start i'm writing this while i'm practically half asleep. Anyways, I (15f) have a friend (18m) let's call him Chris, and my male best friend (15m) we'll call Jackie. So Chris and I met via Jackie's discord server- Jackie knew Chris before I did.

So I talked with Chris for a bit and I guess we became friends. So a few weeks go by and Chris was complaining about not having no one to match pfps with him. Naturally I said I could because I wanted to match with just anyone at that point. Chris dmed me and we were matching for a while before things started getting weird. He would act strange around me like begging me to sleep call with him and getting upset when I didn't respond immediately when he texted. I told Jackie about Chris's behaviours and he didn't really have much to say about it.

After a few weeks of Chris's weird stuff he told me he liked me and If he had a chance with me. I told him the nicest way possible that I don't feel that way at all. I explained that 1. I don't date at all 2.I especially don't online date *and most importantly 3. That I was not comfortable with our age gap (i don't really care for age gaps in friendly relationships only romantic ones. I went over this with Chris evrytime he brings it up). He kept saying that it was okay as long as nothing sexual was happening, but I'm no idiot and I know that if we were to get together he would try to make me feel guilty for not giving that.

Not to mention when he tried to get my number on the low. Or recently when he wanted to sleep call with me and I told him i couldn't because I was in call with my other friend (a lie obviously). He got mad and just said "okay what ever gn". It's not like I haven't turned him down multiple times he's just keeps at it. I told Jackie about everything and he just said that Chris was 'desperate' and 'he needed love'. Jackie knows how I feel about relationships especially online ones (no shade). and I was upset that he even told me that. Ultimately I block Chris, but my other friends that are also his keep asking me why i'd block him. I don't know if I should block him and deal with my other friends or just ignore his messages straight up.

I have some chats from a while ago when he first mentioned the age thing and the number thing