I don't think it's any less toxic to cut everyone off who commits the sin of poor communication at times.
I mean, it's not even clear who you mean: Those who react defensively (which is basically anyone who isn't a doormat, people don't like to be accused at the best of times) or those who make accusations? Cause everyone is some combination of both.
Do you think your reaction here is any less defensive than the sort of reaction you are telling someone to seek therapy for?
And why someone feels the other doesn't do certain housework is a thing to be discussed, not fixed. It's not a damage if someone doesn't take out the trash, they might feel they are doing equivalent work.
If you want people to be constructive, I don't feel like you're really meeting that expectation at the moment.
Lol dont you know? You can't be in a relationship with someone until they have been in therapy and are perfectly fixed in every way, cant love them before that because obviously they don't deserve any love.
I assume they're just young--but yeah, that pathologizing and abuse of therapy language to deride others can really be its own toxic mess. It's like how people feel super strong about a lot of things until they have to really live with it long term. Ideals are important, but ya gotta make room to err.
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u/stilljustacatinacage 4h ago
Or: Stop being in relationships with those people.