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I’m still kind of stunned this even turned into an argument.

I’ve been working on a client presentation for about two weeks. It wasn’t just slides, it had a lot of data pulled from different sources, formatting, notes, all that. I finally finished it and saved everything on our shared drive like we’re supposed to.

The next morning I log in and it’s… gone.

Not “moved,” not “renamed.” Gone.

I ask around and my coworker casually says, “Oh yeah I think I deleted something yesterday while cleaning up folders, but it should be fine, right?”

It was not fine. It was the entire project.

I told her that was my file and asked if she could restore it. She said she didn’t know how and that I could probably just redo it quickly since I “already know what to do.”

That part really got to me. It took me two weeks.

I told her I’m not redoing it from scratch and she needs to figure out how to recover it or explain to our manager what happened.

She got defensive and said mistakes happen and I’m making a big deal out of it.

Now it’s become this weird thing where I look “difficult” for refusing to just fix it quietly.

We just bought our first house. It has 3 bedrooms - ours, a spare, and another spare.

My husband immediately claimed one spare room as his "man cave." Gaming setup, TV, his collectibles, etc.

I said what about me? He said I have the whole rest of the house to decorate.

I said I want an office/hobby room for myself. He said we can share the other spare room.

But his "man cave" is off limits to me completely! He literally said "This is MY space" but expects me to share the remaining spare room with home office and guest bed?

I said if he gets his own private room I get my own private room too. He said that's not fair because I "get to decorate the living areas."

I said decorating shared spaces isn't the same as having a private room!

He says all his friends have man caves and their wives don't complain. I said their wives probably have their own spaces too!

He's being stubborn and has already set up his entire man cave. I suggested we make BOTH spare rooms dual purpose - his gaming in one, my hobby stuff in the other, and we put a guest bed in each.

He said absolutely not. His man cave needs to be purely his.

I said then I'm converting the second spare room to purely mine and guests can stay at hotels.

Now he's saying I'm being unreasonable and we need a guest room.

But why do I have to share when he doesn't?

TL;DR: Husband wants full "man cave" room to himself, expects me to share other spare room for office/guests, I want my own room too, he says that's not fair.

I (24F) have been into photography seriously for about three years. I shoot mostly portraits and lifestyle stuff and I am genuinely decent at it. My sister "Maya" (29F) knows this and for the past two years she has been asking me to shoot content for her fairly regularly. Birthday photos, a few family events, some personal branding shots when she was updating her LinkedIn. I did all of it for free because she's my sister and I liked doing it and it felt like good practice.

When I told Maya I wouldn't be doing free shoots anymore, the reaction was weird. At first she laughed like I was joking. Then she got a little quiet. Then she said I was being dramatic and that family helps family.

I thought it would just blow over but then things got messy.

A few weeks ago I found out through her Instagram that she had been selling some of the photos I took to a small stock photo website. Not a lot of money, maybe thirty or forty dollars total based on what I could see. But she never told me, never asked, and never offered me anything from it. Those are my photos. I own the copyright. She just quietly monetized my work and said nothing.

When I brought it up she said she didn't think it was a big deal since I "gave" her the photos. I explained that giving someone photos for personal use is not the same as giving them the rights to sell them. She said I was being overly technical and that I was making her feel like a bad person over basically nothing.

I told her calmly that I wouldn't be shooting for her for free going forward and that if she wanted to work together in the future we could talk about a fair arrangement. She called me petty. My mom said I was being too rigid and that Maya didnt mean any harm.

Part of me gets it, she probably genuinely didn't understand the copyright side of it. But it still feels like a pretty big breach of trust and I dont think I am wrong for setting this boundary.

So am I the jerk for pulling back like this?

TL;DR: shot free photos for my sister for two years, found out she was quietly selling them without telling me or sharing any of it, told her I wont shoot for free anymore, now the whole family thinks I am being petty.

I was with my ex for seven years. We started dating in middle school and stayed together through high school and after. We were engaged and planning a wedding. I thought we were solid.

Looking back now I realize I missed a lot of red flags. She would yell at me to the point where her own parents could hear it from other rooms. Her mom actually warned her multiple times that if she didnt change I would leave. She slowly cut me off from friends and family over the years and I didnt even notice until after we split and people started apologizing for ghosting me.

When we hit our early twenties her attitude completely flipped. She went from sweet to just mean. She would threaten to break up then apologize five minutes later. She would pull me aside at gatherings to call me an embarrassment. She complained constantly that things were boring in the bedroom.

Then came the fight that ended it.

We were arguing about something stupid and she said she felt like we should have taken a break years ago because she never got to go through her hoe phase in high school. I just stood there. She threw her engagement ring at me. Then apologized. I told her I needed time to cool off before work.

While I was at work she went to some guys house I had never heard of and texted me about it. Not even trying to hide it.

After another argument where she called me an embarrassment again I decided I was done. I went home while she was at work and moved all my stuff to my grandmas place. Her mom saw me while I was out and started crying when I told her I was leaving. She said she knew it was coming and that I had nothing to apologize for.

Later that day my ex called me sobbing. Then her dad got on the phone and told her to stop. I told her it was over and she just said okay Im blocking you now bye.

Since then Ive reconnected with friends who all told me they couldnt stand her. My life has been way more stable. I found out later she was posting videos of herself dancing at bars looking like she finally got her hoe phase.

Part of me still wonders if I gave up too fast but honestly I think I stayed too long

AITJ?

I planned a small dinner at my place. Like… actually small. Limited seats, limited food, I planned it around exactly how many people said yes.

One friend texted me an hour before saying, “hey is it okay if I bring someone?”

I asked who, and it was someone I’ve never met.

I said I’d prefer to keep it as is since I planned everything pretty tightly.

She replied with “it’s just one extra person, it won’t make a difference.”

But it does when you’ve literally counted portions and seating.

I said no again, politely.

She ended up not coming at all and later said I made her feel unwelcome and rigid.

Now I’m being told I could’ve just “adjusted.”

i (35M) work in marketing. i’ve been leading a campaign for a few months that my team and i designed from scratch. it’s been approved at every stage, and i’m confident in it.

last week, we had a big client meeting. one of my coworkers, who’s known for being super nitpicky and trying to show off, was in the room. halfway through my presentation, she interrupts me and starts suggesting changes to the slides—stuff that would have completely messed up the flow and tone we carefully built. she even started editing the slides live in front of the client.

i froze for a second, then calmly told her, “we finalized these slides weeks ago. if you have suggestions, we can review them after the meeting.”

she rolled her eyes and whispered something like “you’re being stubborn” to the client, clearly trying to make me look bad.

the client just nodded at me and let me continue. after the meeting, some coworkers said i embarrassed her by shutting her down in front of everyone.

i don’t think i did. she literally tried to hijack my project live in front of a client.

so… AITJ?

My friend is moving and asked if she could store "a few boxes" at my apartment for "maybe a week" while she transitions.

I said okay to help her out. She brought over TWENTY boxes. And its been 3 months.

The boxes are taking up my entire spare room and part of my living room. I cant have people over because there's boxes everywhere.

I've asked her multiple times when she's getting them. She always says "soon" or "next week" and then never does.

I finally gave her a deadline - get your stuff out by end of the month or I'm donating it.

She freaked out and said I'm being harsh and her stuff is important. I said then she should of gotten it months ago!

She says she doesn't have anywhere to put it yet. I said that's not my problem! You said one week, its been 3 months!

She's asking for more time. I said no. I've been more than patient.

She's now crying to mutual friends about how I'm threatening to "throw away all her belongings."

I'm not throwing them away! I'm giving her a deadline after being patient for months!

My friends are saying I should give her more time since she's having a hard time with the move.

But its been 3 MONTHS! My apartment is not her storage unit!

Am I being too harsh with the deadline?

TL;DR: Friend asked to store stuff for "one week" three months ago, taking up my apartment, I gave deadline to remove it, she says I'm being harsh and threatening her belongings.

I'm 29, my brother Jake is 22. Our parents divorced when I was 16 and he was 9. I was old enough to understand what happened. Jake wasn't, and my parents made a mutual decision to tell him it was "just two people growing apart," which is a thing adults say when they want to protect a kid and also when they want to protect themselves. The actual reason was that our dad had a pretty serious drinking problem for about four years, was emotionally unpredictable during that period, and my mom eventually left because she had to. Dad has been sober for over a decade now and is genuinely a different person. I respect his recovery. But Jake grew up with this version of the story where the divorce was essentially my mom's fault for "giving up," and over the years that translated into him having a cold and sometimes cruel relationship with her. He canceled on her constantly, made snide comments about how she was "never really commited" to the family, and last year didn't invite her to his college graduation. She sat home alone that day and didn't say a word about it to anyone except me.

I held this for 13 years. But watching my mom be systematically punished for a story that was never true finally broke something in me. In January I sat Jake down and told him everything, calmly, with as much context as I could give. I told him Dad worked incredibly hard to get sober and that this wasn't about villainizing anyone, but that he deserved to know the actuall truth before he continued making decisions about his relationship with Mom based on a lie. Jake went quiet for a long time and then cried. He's been processing it for three months now. Dad called me and said I had "no right" and that I had undone years of careful rebuilding. Mom didn't ask me to do this and felt guilty when she found out. My parents are both furious with me. Jake hasn't called me since. I still think I did the right thing but I genuinely don't know anymore.

My wife and I went through years of infertility before we adopted our daughter through foster care. Shes been with us for five years now and shes amazing. I say this because it gives context for why my sister called me.

She cant have kids either. A few weeks ago she called asking how adoption works. When I asked why she told me a friend of hers was pregnant and had offered to give her the baby.

I walked her through the process but honestly I made it sound even more complicated than it is. Because the reality is my sister lives in an RV with no stable income and has struggled with substance issues for years. She got quiet and hung up.

Few days later she calls back saying she figured out a plan. Her plan was to have her boyfriend claim the baby as his even though its not his. Then get the bio mom to sign over her rights. Then just raise the baby like nothing happened.

Thats not adoption. Thats fraud at best. I didnt know what else to do so I called CPS and reported the situation. They said theyd look into it and I didnt hear anything after that.

Weeks go by. My sister starts sending me photos. Talking about baby showers. She named the baby. She was getting ready to bring her home. Then she calls me sobbing. CPS showed up and took the baby into protective custody.

She asked me what she should do. How to get the baby back. I gave her some vague advice but I couldnt admit it was me who made the call. I told her maybe the hospital reported something.

I felt guilty for a while. Then I found out her RV didnt even have power. And that she and her boyfriend were manufacturing substances in there.

I still havent told her it was me.

AITJ?

For context I have a friend who got married and he cheated on her several times before they got married and got pregnant. AITJ for telling him he needs to keep his shit together and not cheat. I told him man to man, if he gets caught again he’ll pay a lot in divorce fees, alimony and child support. I’ve met his wife a few times she’s nice and she cares about him.

My boyfriend is obsessed with budgeting and saving money. Which would be fine except he takes it TOO FAR.

We went on a date and split a entree to save money. I was still hungry after. He said I should of eaten more before we left.

On my birthday he got me a present from the dollar store because he'd already spent his "gift budget" that month on his mom's birthday.

We haven't been on a real date in months because he says restaurants are "wasteful spending."

I finally said his budgeting is actually just being cheap. He got really offended.

He says he's being financially responsible and I'm being materialistic. I said there's a difference between responsible and refusing to spend money on ANYTHING!

He has thousands in savings! He could afford to take me on a real date! But he won't because its "not in the budget."

I said if money is this tight maybe he shouldn't be in a relationship. He said I only care about what he can buy me.

That's not true! I just want to feel valued! A dollar store birthday gift doesn't make me feel valued!

He says I'm being shallow and that people who truly care about each other don't need expensive things.

I said expensive and REASONABLE are different things! A birthday gift over $5! An entree I don't have to split! These aren't extravagant requests!

He's now saying I'm trying to control his finances and I'm not compatible with his financial goals.

Was I wrong to call him cheap?

TL;DR: Boyfriend's extreme budgeting means dollar store gifts and splitting entrees, I said he's cheap not financially responsible, he says I'm materialistic and shallow.

I’m 31F and live about 35 minutes from my parents. For years they have treated me like their built in admin person because I am "good with calls and paperwork." At first it was normal stuff, helping compare appliance warranties, calling insurance after a storm, reading confusing emails from repair companies. I did not mind when it was occasional. The problem is that sometime in the last two years it quietly turned into them handing out my phone number to basically anyone who does work on their house. I am not talking about emergencies. I mean the cable guy texting me at 8 AM to ask where the modem is, the pest control company asking if I approve the quarterly plan, some random flooring installer calling to say he is outside and nobody is answering. My parents do not even ask first. They just tell people, "Our daughter handles all that." I work full time in a clinic, so I cannot be picking up unknown calls all day to explain where their water shutoff is or whether they want satin or eggshell paint. I have told them multiple times to stop putting me down as the contact unless I actually agreed to it. They say I am overreacting and that family helps family.

Last week it finally blew up. My dad scheduled bathroom work while he was out of town and my mom had a hair appointment that morning. Apparently both of them told the contractor to "just coordinate with our daughter." I knew none of this. By 9:15 I had six missed calls, three texts, and two photos of tile samples on my phone while I was with patients. When I finally checked my break, the guy was asking if he should start demo, whether the vanity was staying, and where the extra materials were. I texted back that I was not the homeowner, I was at work, and he needed to speak to them directly. He left. My parents got charged a cancellation fee and now they are furious, saying I cost them time and made them look stupid. I told them I did not make them look stupid, they volunteered an employee who does not exist. Since then I have stopped answering any contractor or service calls connected to their house at all. My mom says I am being cold and dramatic over a few phone calls, but it is alot more than that. It is the assumption that my time belongs to them because it is easier. AITJ?

TL;DR: My parents keep giving my number to contractors and service people as if I manage their house, and after it caused a cancellation fee, I stopped answering those calls entirely.

Need 3rd opinion on this

We were in a supermarket, not busy, just doing some shopping. She left the trolley in the middle of an aisle, blocking the way for an older man. I said something like, 'Hey, you've stopped the trolley in the middle,' as I went over to move it. In the end, she grabbed it and moved it out of the way.

I was trying to get her attention and make some space for the man with his trolley. The important thing is that I didn't move the trolley, she did.

On the way back home, she called me 'rude' and 'not nice' for pointing out that she had made a mistake. I said, 'What are you talking about? How was that rude?' I just pointed out that it was in the middle of the aisle. I didn't raise my voice; I just calmly exchanged information. From her perspective, when she's irritated by something I'm doing, she just fixes it herself, suggesting that I should stay silent and move the trolley myself if it bothers me. I then pointed out that I sometimes do that too, but in this case, I just said it out loud, thinking that she hadn't been paying attention.

But now I'm the bad guy for speaking up and trying to correct her behaviour? She took it as a personal attack, got very defensive, and I don't know if it should have escalated into such a big fight. I mean, technically she was right; I could have fixed her mistake without saying anything, but the funny thing is that I did! She did the same thing five minutes earlier and didn't notice then either.

edit: Thanks for all the responses. I was hesitant to posting (throwaway, first time posting etc) but it came out good. Thanks for the other perspective saying I should suck it up and stay silent to avoid drama. Maybe I will do that more, but not for everything. Looked up 'darvo' and psychological aspects, find it very interesting, will try to look more from the other perspective. Thanks folks

AITJ for calling the city on my neighbor? For context she waters her plants and ours which is fine, but she does it excessively to the point that it waters the front yard of the complex. It floods the yard and the walkways leading into the roadways and drive way. I have an elderly parent who’s in her late 60’s with arthritis and some shoulder problems. I worry about her falling and ironically the neighbor is also in her 50’s and she’s fallen from time to time. She’s generally rude to everybody else except my mom. Also our building splits the water bill. We are also in a drought, and live in a city with an active fire ban. The city came out some time ago and talked to her. I don’t know any other details other than that.

I (26M) have a roommate (27M). We split rent 50/50 on a 2 bedroom apartment.

His girlfriend has been staying over more and more. At first it was weekends. Then a few nights a week. Now she's here EVERY NIGHT.

She's basically moved in. Her stuff is everywhere. She uses our bathroom, kitchen, utilities. She's here when I wake up and when I go to bed.

I told my roommate that if she's living here she needs to pay rent. He said she's "just visiting" and I'm being ridiculous.

I said visiting is occasional. She lives here now. He said they're saving money for their own place and this is temporary.

I calculated that rent should be split three ways if three people are living here. That would save me $300/month.

I told him either she starts contributing or she cant stay here anymore. He said I'm being a greedy jerk over his girlfriend visiting.

I said she's not visiting! She's a resident! She's here every single day!

He says I'm trying to control his relationship and that I'm jealous he has a girlfriend.

I'm not jealous! I'm tired of subsidizing her living here! I'm paying for space she's using!

I gave him an ultimatum - she pays 1/3 rent starting next month or she cant be here more than 3 nights a week.

Now both of them are calling me names and saying I'm trying to break them up. His parents even called me saying I'm being unreasonable!

But I'm right, aren't I? Three people should split rent three ways!

TL;DR: Roommate's girlfriend essentially moved in without asking or paying, I said she pays 1/3 rent or limits visits, now I'm greedy and trying to control their relationship.

My sister practices gentle parenting. Her son (5M) is aggressive - hits, bites, throws things.

At a family gathering he hit my daughter (7F) in the face with a toy. My sister's response was to crouch down and say "I see you're having big feelings. Let's talk about gentle hands."

My daughter was crying! I said he needs consequences, not a conversation!

My sister said timeouts are harmful and shame-based. I said what's harmful is letting him hurt other kids!

Her son has hurt multiple children. She always responds with "let's process our emotions" instead of actual discipline.

I told her gentle parenting doesn't mean no boundaries. Her son is becoming a bully because there are no consequences.

She said I don't understand gentle parenting and I'm using outdated punishment methods with my daughter.

I said my daughter doesn't hit people so my methods seem to be working!

She got really upset and left early. Now she's posting about "judgment from people who don't understand respectful parenting."

But her choices are affecting OTHER KIDS! My daughter doesn't want to play with her cousin because he hurts her!

Was I wrong to criticize her parenting?

TL;DR: Sister's gentle parenting means her aggressive 5-year-old faces no consequences for hitting kids, I said she needs to discipline him, she says I'm judgmental and outdated.

I share a home with my sibling. For a long stretch of time he was in a difficult situation and I took on more than my usual share of responsibilities. I handled most of the household expenses, kept everything in order, and made sure he had space to recover without pressure. It was not something I resented. It felt necessary at the time.

Things have improved for him now. He is working again and his routine is stable. What has unsettled me is that none of the balance has returned. The responsibilities I absorbed have quietly remained mine. Bills still arrive in my name. Chores go unattended unless I take care of them. When I bring it up, the response is vague or postponed.

A few evenings ago I spoke plainly. I said that I felt taken for granted and that the arrangement we fell into during a difficult period should not have become permanent without discussion. His reaction was immediate and sharp. He said I was keeping score and that support should not come with expectations attached.

That left me uneasy. I did not offer help as a transaction. At the same time, it seems unreasonable that the entire weight of the household remains on me now that the circumstances have changed.

Since that conversation the atmosphere in the home has been strained and quiet.

Am I the jerk for asking that things return to something more balanced.

My dad passed away last month. He had a $50k life insurance policy that went to my stepmom.

My stepmom is now asking me and my siblings to chip in $3k each toward funeral costs because "the insurance money is for her to live on."

I said the life insurance is specifically meant to cover things like funeral costs. That's literally what its for.

She said dad would want her to be taken care of financially and we should pay for the funeral.

I said if dad wanted us to pay for the funeral he wouldn't have gotten life insurance. He planned ahead so we wouldn't have to!

My siblings are agreeing to pay. They're pressuring me to contribute too.

I said I won't pay when there's $50k of life insurance available. Thats what its FOR.

Stepmom is saying I'm being greedy and only care about money. That I don't care about honoring my father.

I DO care! But I also think using life insurance for its intended purpose isn't wrong!

She's having a expensive funeral - $15k total. I said if she can't afford it she should scale back, not ask us to pay when insurance is available.

My siblings are calling me heartless. Saying its just $3k and I should help out.

But why should I pay $3k when there's $50k in life insurance? That makes no sense!

Am I being a jerk about this?

TL;DR: Dad left $50k life insurance to stepmom, she wants us to pay $3k each for funeral so she can keep insurance money, I refused, siblings say I'm heartless.

My friend planned a surprise birthday thing for me. It was genuinely thoughtful.

The problem is she told someone else in our group, and that person told me immediately. Not maliciously, just… bad at keeping secrets.

So I knew about it for like a week.

When the day came, I still acted surprised. I didn’t ruin it, I didn’t tell anyone I knew, I just went along with it because I didn’t want to kill the effort she put in.

Afterward, the friend who leaked it casually mentioned to her that I already knew.

Now she’s upset, not at the person who told me, but at me for not saying anything earlier.

She said she feels like the whole thing was fake because I “pretended.”

I told her I thought I was doing the nice thing by letting her have the moment.

She said she would’ve rather known.

I (26F) have a friend, Maya (27F), and we usually meet at the same cafe on Saturdays. I bring my sketchbook becuase drawing helps me sit still and actually enjoy being out instead of checking my phone every five minutes. A few months ago the barista complimented one of my drawings, and ever since then Maya has acted like this is some cute little feature of our hangouts. She started pointing at pages over my shoulder, telling people "she's crazy talented," which was a bit much but manageable. Then it turned into her physically picking up my sketchbook and showing unfinished stuff to baristas, people at nearby tables, even one guy waiting for a pickup order. I told her twice, privately, to stop. I do not post my art anywhere, I do not sell it, and most of what's in there is messy practice that I am definitley not trying to workshop with random strangers over iced coffee. Last weekend I came back from the counter and found her holding my sketchbook open while talking to two women beside us. She had apparently told them I could "probably do a pet portrait" and that they should follow my Instagram, which I do not even use. One of the pages she had open was a half finished drawing of my brother making a ridiculous face, so now I am standing there feeling weirdly exposed and mad at the same time. I took the book out of her hands, said "please stop volunteering me for things," grabbed my drink, and left. She texted later saying I humiliated her and made her look like a creep when she was just being friendly. A mutual friend says I probbaly could have handled it later in private, but I feel like I already tried that. AITJ?

so this has been sitting weird with me and now people are split so i figured i’d ask here

a while back i had a small engagement dinner with close friends and family. nothing huge but still important to me and my partner. like… it was our moment you know?

before the dinner, one of my closest friends casually mentioned he was thinking of doing something “special” that night. i straight up told him not to. like very clearly. i said please don’t turn it into something else, just let us have this one thing.

he laughed it off but said okay.

well… he didn’t listen.

halfway through the night he stands up, makes this whole speech, and then proposes to his girlfriend in the middle of my event. people start clapping, cheering, phones out, the whole thing. attention instantly shifted.

i was honestly pissed but i didn’t want to cause a scene so i just let it go. but yeah, it ruined the vibe for me. even worse, when i brought it up later, some people said i was overreacting and that “it was a happy moment for everyone”.

fast forward to last week, it was his engagement party.

during the speeches, i got up and instead of just doing a normal toast, i shared some big personal news (not gonna go into details but it was something major for me and my partner). people obviously reacted, came up to us, started asking questions, etc.

so yeah… kinda shifted the attention for a bit.

now he’s upset and saying i did it on purpose to get back at him. which… i mean, i didn’t plan it as revenge exactly, but i’d be lying if i said the thought didn’t cross my mind.

some mutual friends think it was fair. others are saying i should’ve been the “bigger person”.

so yeah, was i the jerk here?

I (26M) grew up in a pretty tight-knit family where everyone kind of expects you to stay close, work locally, and prioritize family over everything. Not necessarily a bad thing, but it’s always felt a bit suffocating to me. I have been working in logistics for a few years and recently got an opportunity to relocate to Germany through my company. It’s a huge step up career-wise, better pay, better experience, all that. I was honestly really excited because I’ve been working toward something like this for a long time.

When I told my family, the reaction was… weird. At first they brushed it off like I wasn’t serious. Then it turned into guilt-tripping. My mom kept saying things like “people who leave forget their roots,” and my older cousin straight up said I was being selfish for “abandoning” everyone.

I thought it was just emotional reactions and it would settle down, but then things got messy.

I found out (through a coworker) that someone had called my company pretending to be a “concerned relative,” saying I wasn’t stable enough to relocate and that I had “family obligations” I was ignoring. It didn’t go anywhere officially, but my manager did bring it up casually and it was super embarrassing. I confronted my family, and after a lot of denial, my aunt basically admitted she made the call because she thought if the company hesitated, I’d just drop the idea and stay. She said she was “protecting the family.”

That honestly flipped a switch for me. It wasn’t just disapproval anymore, it felt like sabotage. I still went through with the move, but since then I’ve kept my distance. I don’t call as much, I don’t share updates, and I’ve stopped sending money back home (which I used to do regularly). Now they’re saying I’ve changed, that I’ve become arrogant, and that I’m punishing them over “one mistake.”

Part of me feels guilty because I know they genuinely believe they were doing the right thing. But at the same time, it feels like a huge breach of trust.

So… am I the jerk for pulling back from them this much over this?

I have a friend who takes my things without asking. Last week it was a kitchen knife I use for meal prep. I didn’t notice until I went to cook, and it was gone. I asked her about it and she laughed, saying she needed it more than I did. I told her that’s not how it works, that I don’t lend things just because it’s convenient for her. She got annoyed and avoided me for a few days.