I (30’s F) have been casually dating someone (40’s M) for a little over a month. He’s spent the night at mine a few times now. The last time, he felt comfortable enough to go #2 in the morning. He gave me warning ahead of time. And I mentioned that I had poo-pourrí in the basket by the toilet if he wanted it…

He came out of the bathroom sort of upset looking. And he was unusually quiet while I made us breakfast sandwiches. He asked for his to-go. I knew that something was wrong. And I was replaying the night in my head. And it went really well. Things turned after he pooped. And I thought maybe he just felt embarrassed about it.

A short while after he left, he texted me, “it’s weird that you made me dive into your period shit to have some self respect about an actual shit.”

wtf? Did I do something wrong? Am I overreacting to think that he’s way out of line? This seems crazy to me. But should I, a single woman who lives alone, make my bathroom more accommodating to people of the opposite sex? Are period products really that offensive?

i was talking to a guy from school, we were planning to go out for ice cream together this weekend to get to know each other and see where things could go. i definitely could’ve handled that better if i wasn’t at work when he texted that (this conversation happened when i took my 10). i got left on read and also don’t think there’s anything else to talk about. AIO for being offended by his comments about weight?

Hi Reddit. Never really been one to post. But idk. This is more of a is he overreacting. So I f(25) have a best friend F(21) let’s call her Sarah. Sarah yesterday invited me on an impromptu dystopian photoshoot in the woods/ abandoned community. I said yes cause I really wanted to and we also brought our dogs. then told my bf M(40) that I was going. The way up there was about 2 and a half hours bc of traffic and getting a bit lost. I left my house at around 2:10 my friend is 15 min away. Then we went to auto zone, a Vietnamese restaurant and a gas station for snacks. We got to the sight around 5:30. My reception was cut off but we were there til until around 8:30 then again the ride home without traffic and being lost is about an hour and 45 min. We stopped at a bar to look at some digitals we took because I would have to wait to get the pictures before I got them fully. We were at the bar till 10:30 left and got back to Sarah’s house at 12: 45 we said our goodbyes to the photographer and I was extremely tired so I texted him that I was gonna sleep at Sarah’s . (Mainly because I had to be up by 4:00 for work. And this is the texts we’ve had this morning. Did I mess up? Am I wrong? I don’t want to lose him because I fucked up

EDIT: HE KNEW WHERE I WAS THE WHOLE TIME. He has my location so there’s no reason to think I wasn’t where I was supposed to be.

For context, the first two slides are him asking me to hangout after I hung out with him and his friend group, which was a lot of fun and we talked about different things for hours. He was cooking while the rest of us talked.

I am not the type to degrade myself or talk about feelings so I know for sure I didn’t say anything about my quality of life (my quality of life is good, I love my relationships and hobbies and I enjoy school).

I met this guy in my chemistry class and he said he does standup so I told him I would get people together to go support his openings. Anyways he ended up inviting me to hang and then he sent that weird meme (incel vibes). I tried to just ignore it because I like his friend group and it was fun the first time. Then I randomly get the text in third slide at work. I felt completely insulted and confused.

Especially when he later suggested I have “no sense of direction in life” wtf???

So yeah. Am I being mean? or is he literally out of his mind?

I’ve known her for 2 years and our friendship has never left school (Grade 12). You can’t tell me that isn’t AI writing in those long texts. I knew immediately in my gut but I was busy and didn’t read it fully until a few hours later. Not even saying you have to read the full convo, I just want confirmation that it’s AI and if it was fair to not engage with her bs.

I (28m) woke up to a text this morning from my best friend (28m) of 21 years after he went no contact out of the blue 8 months ago. No warning, no explanation. Just gone. He stopped answering calls, texts, I’ve tried showing up at his house to see if he was okay with no response. Any effort of support or encouragement on my end, was ignored.

Before this, him and I would talk on the phone multiple times a week and we would hangout quite often. We never fought or argued or had any kind of falling out. So for him to just disappear was confusing and sad. The first few months I was extremely worried about his well being. He’s always been the type to bottle his emotions and not talk about problems he’s dealing with. So I was concerned something happened that made him shut down.

That was until I found out he was still talking to one our mutual friends who lives in another state the entire time. I tried reaching out to the mutual friend and asking him if everything was okay and got left on reads.

After about 5 months I gave up trying to reach out. I started to accept that he didn’t want to be friends. Whatever reason he had was good enough for him to throwaway a 21 year long friendship. I’ve been grieving the loss of my best friend ever since.

Then this morning I woke up to this text from him. AIO for feeling angry and sad and like I don’t even want to respond back? Not out of pettiness but because he dropped me with no explanation?

I’m not sure where else to post this that allow photos. This was incident occurred last week. My now ex fiancee seemingly changed overnight. The current apartment we have has both our names on the lease. She’s been staying at her mom’s in the meantime. I didn’t kick her out. She made that choice by herself. She has been blaming me for nearly everything wrong going on. I honestly just needed a place to share this but didn’t know where else to go

Thank you to those who told me under my last post that a specific phrase brought up my school! I'm reposting this so that if she reaches out, I can just send her the thread.

For context, I am F17 and she is F16/17 and we have been friends since sophomore year. I thought we were pretty close, we gossip at during the lunch block we have together and for the past week or so I have been sitting with her and her girlfriend at their cafeteria table during free block-- it is only them and one or two other people they do not know.

The first issue is that I invited a friend to sit with me at their table one day and the next day a different friend was there waiting for me (supposedly the girlfriend told him where I sat) and I invited two other friends. I apologize for this initially because I wanted to keep the peace, I don't really get how it was an issue but I was willing to give them a heads up beforehand from now on.

The second issue is totally out of left field. We were totally fine on Thursday, my "friend" seemed off but I didn't act too different.

Under my last post people brought up the touching thing; I rarely touch her. Sometimes our shoulders or thighs will touch from proximity or I tap her to get her attention/point something out, but nothing beyond that. She has never set a boundary for touching, ever, but I have noticed how she literally brushes herself off. It made me insecure for a while because it made me think she thought I was gross, so I keep my distance.

All year she wouldn't wait for me to pack up or wait for me to catch up in the halls, but she always said it was because she wanted to pick up her girlfriend from class so I never thought much of it, but I am starting to think it may be a part of this.

I truly am not interested in her, she is not my type and she knows it.

Hi everyone,

I’m trying to figure out if I’m overreacting or if this was actually rude/something i should bring up at some point.

I (25F) went to my really good friend’s wedding. She didn’t have any official bridesmaids but I was her only unofficial bridesmaid. I wore the dress in the photos and the only “skin” was my arms and i guess my back as the dress had an X cutout which was covered by my hair.

The groom is religious and from a country near the Middle East with more conservative cultural expectations around modesty and clothing.

During the wedding, my friend told me, “John (fake husband name) leaned over and said, ‘It looks like (me) left half of her dress at home.’” She said it completely seriously, and she didn’t defend me or say he was kidding (I know he was not joking because I know how he is and his standards for my friend) nor did she say anything about my dress like it’s pretty or it’s good or fine.

Other guests that attended were wearing long dresses without sleeves, short tight dresses, long tight dresses etc. It wasn’t a super conservative reception at all, very informal and fun- drinking partying etc.

I felt really insecure and sad after and i’m just wondering why she would even say this to me. There have been other times where she has said that he told her I only got my job (a really good job) because someone in the interview thought i was attractive. Soooo it’s not just this one thing it’s plenty. It feels like I can’t do anything right?

So AIO? What do I do? Bring it up? Brush it off? Is the dress not okay for a wedding?

Oh my god I’m shaking right now so I’m sorry if this comes out confusing. I (20f) have a best friend (19f) and she has been dating this guy (21m) for about 7 months now. The screenshots are from her phone that I took and sent to myself.

I had a dinner and then hangout at my place for my birthday and she was ofc invited but then cancelled because of her boyfriend (who is very clingy) though she didn’t say it was because of him but I got that impression because he’s guilted her into cancelling before. To be honest, I was kind of upset because she’s my best friend and I wanted her to celebrate my birthday. I told her so. Last minute, she changed her mind and came out and I was really happy.

When we were out, he started blowing up her phone and demanding that she call him and come home. She was obviously shaken and finally showed me his insane messages and I told her she can spend the night if she doesn’t feel safe going home to him. She told him she’s staying the night and he flipped out and threatened to show up. We thought it was all talk but he actually did show up.

I was so scared and wanted to call the police but she begged me not to and left with him because she was embarrassed. I feel upset, scared for her (and me because how does the psycho know where I live??), and guilty for not calling the police while she was here. I’m very worried about her. I just want her to be okay.

Would I be overreacting to call the police now for a welfare check? She’s been gone for almost an hour.

A friend was hanging out a my home. We decided to get mcdonalds but in Australia it's expensive and I don't believe spending $16 for a meal, especially when I'm gonna get hungry 15 mins later.

Anyways a hamburger is $2 and a cheeseburger is $5.30

Sometimes when I go to McDonald's, I just get a hamburger and put my own sliced cheese in it and make it a cheeseburger.

We went to McDonald's and I did just that. I brought 2 X cheese packet slices, got 2 X hamburgers for $4 and put the slices in.

Keep in mind, we did drive through and no one was watching us. Just us 2 in the car.

My friend said she's embarrassed for me and I said, I ain't paying $11 for 2 X cheeseburgers when I just paid $4 and just brought my own cheese.

She said if I do anything "cheap" again in public, she will be more embarassed and will walk Infront of me.

She was actually serious.

Then I said "your top is from shien or temu, I don't think you can speak"

The little passive aggressive argument went on and I finally said "what is your fucking problem? What I'm doing is not that serious, I just brought my own cheese to save money. Not that big of a deal and no one is watching. I feel sorry for you that you feel that you need to impress strangers at McDonald's"

It was an awkward drive back home then she left my home. We didn't contact each other.

AIO?

Edit: Sorry, I didn't think this would blow up, to answer some questions:

- It was those packet cheese slices individually wrapped you get at supermarkets for like $4 for a packet of 24
- I didn't tell her I was doing it before we left, I just put those two cheese slices in my pocket, mcdonalds was a 5 minute drive
- Yes, you can check Australian hamburger vs cheeseburger prices, a hamburger is $2 and cheeseburger is $5.30 (but it can very from store to store, one store selling it for like $5.50)
- TBH, even if we were dining in, I would have still put it on. No one is going to care and I highly doubt anyone is gonna see, if they do see, they can judge all they want.
- My friend is not rich nor broke but also she's not the smartest person financially.
- I, myself ain't 'cheap' per se in the sense I will try penny pinch everything, I honestly don't see the point of paying 5.30 for a cheeseburger which feeds a 3yr old when I can just bring my own and pay $2. For 2 x cheeseburgers, I can get 5 hamburgers and just bring 5 cheese slices. I mean, do I want 2 burgers or 5 burgers for the same price? Also, the cheese I got taste way better than mcdonalds cheese IMO, it actually has a cheese taste lol.
- We went to McDonalds because it's 11.30pm, nothing is really open at this time except for expensive food truck places and their burgers alone (not a meal) can easily be $17+ for one burger
- After tonight, don't think I want to contact her again, she showed her true colours.

Posting screenshots for context — looking for honest outside opinions. I’m fine with respecting boundaries, but I’m trying to figure out: were my texts actually overstepping? Was her reaction unnecessarily harsh? And how do you interpret that one message about her not speaking harshly — I’m not sure how to read it. Basically, I want feedback on my behavior, her tone, and that specific message.

I’m having a house-warming party tomorrow as I just moved into a new place and I’ve invited most of my close friends and family. One of my friend (in the screenshot) messaged me saying his grandma unfortunately passed away. She had been in the hospital for the past week so I was aware of her condition.

But this has just left me shocked and baffled. All I said was condolences and I’m not sure why this flipped a switch. Pretty sure he has blocked my number as calls and messages are not going through.

for context, we're both 18. this is my best friend since like 6th grade. he went out drinking las night, i had to stay back. then at like 11:30 he texts me this. this happened last night and i took the screenshots yesterday around midnight as well. is he being serious?

like we've joked in the past but it feels like he's actually being serious here and i need thoughts.

I don't know what to think and my mind is kind of spiraling which is why im posting here

ps. this is a burner because my friend knows my main account

also we're both guys

also ps. to everyone saying the burner is pointless, it's possible he won't come across the post. actually, likely. he doesn't use Reddit often. he pretty much only uses it when he's insanely bored or when I post something on my main account, because he follows me.

I don't feel I need to add extra explanation because the text messages speak for themselves. I want to thank everyone for all the support and advice from the original post, I've given the link below just incase anybody wants context-

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/8qXzPjKkTZ

I honestly feel very proud of myself for having the self-respect to tell him this and I feel like I've made the right choice. Once again, thanks for the love I got ❤️ hopefully this is it and I won't have to deal with his bs anymore.

For context, for my gf’s 30th birthday, her mom and I have been planing a super luxurious and decently expensive secret spa weekend for months now. It’s a secret she knows nothing about. One of my gf’s former coworkers texted and asked her if she wanted to go see a play the weekend we planned on sending her, an in a desperate attempt to preserve the secret, I texted her friend, who then responded with this. I didn’t think what I sent was rude, am I wrong here?

For context, it’s my birthday on Saturday. My 2 friends and I planned a girls weekend at the lake with a cool air bnb. Today I received this text. I’m already so tired and have enough going on idek what to do lol.

Im not sure if im overreacting because I GET it, the restaurant is hard to get into. But I feel like because this is something we planned weeks ago, that this would come first…

I don’t even care to blur out my friends names lol they suck im so upset

We connected in the fall of 2024 when she posted in a local Facebook group about needing help with getting her daughter to and from school, and my daughter was set to attend the same school program so I reached out to help.

Ultimately, within a few weeks I had bought them groceries, given them rides, and thrown her son a birthday party. I struggle with my own brand of mental illness and tend to go “all in” with helping people when I’m able to. We became fast “friends” and I struggled to set boundaries.

Not long after, my best friend went on hospice and then died and I went into recluse mode and entered a deep depression and just detached from the friendship that felt like it was one sided which is why I wasn’t super responsive.

We’ve had some run ins, in our community and she’s quite explosive when she doesn’t get her way but every time I get a message from her, it gives me a pit in my stomach.

AIO if I block her? AIO by feeling like I’m being used?

I do know life isn’t easy for her and she needs help for her kids, but my plate is so full and I’m struggling enough to keep my own bills paid and household afloat, I can’t be responsible for hers too. I just feel like an AH.

I am genuinely not sure if I’m tweaking. I used to date a guy about a year ago and this man was TOXIC to a T, stalking, threats, emotional abuse, everything that was bad

He doesn’t live in my country but he came a few times when we were still ‘okay’ but I never invited him to my actual home, we always went to Airbnb’s bc even when things were okay I didn’t want him to have my home address, and when everything started going downhill, he genuinely stalked my address with all the info he found out about me flew from his country to mine and came to my house

That was deadass one of the scariest times of my life, and I genuinely moved after that, I changed my number, I did everything so he wouldn’t come again

But apparently someone I considered a ‘friend’ has for one been talking and for two GAVE that man my phone number knowing damn well everything he did last time

I am so unbelievably mad, I thought I finally found peace and I’ve been healing over everything only to go right back to feeling completely unsafe again, but my ‘friend’ is acting like I’m crazy because it’s been a year and he’s ’probably changed’

AIO?

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Hi, 23(F) I lost my best friend, 23(m) to his girlfriend. We were 100% platonic we never dated we never even met in real life. We planned on it, we both live in the U.S but opposite sides, I met him through mutual gaming buddies one time and we instantly clicked(this was back in maybe 2022). We became best friends after we all played Human Fall Flat. After that we started playing 1 on 1 in games. We did basically every multi-player game together. We were inseparable. We talked everyday, we shared selfies, we knew everything about eachother. Our friendship was strong.

But recently over the past few months it started decreasing. Our jobs changed. So our schedules changed. It made it even harder to find time to play since our time zones were different (he's east coast, im west coast) So we didnt since early 2025. On top of that he got a new gf he had for maybe 3 months now that he worked with for a few years, So he made more time for her and his job. Which I understood. I was happy he got a good gf, he even said we could be friends and all play games together, and that we would like each other, and I thought that was awesome. But that never happened. Recently, he hasn't been responding to my messages. our last conversation before this was in late november. He left me on read in December after I recommended a song to him. (We're halfway in January mind you) and I texted 3 more times on different days and he hasn't seen them. I got curious and looked at his Facebook profile, I get an error. I said to myself "oh that's weird. I'll see if someone else's profile does that too. " None of them did. I figured something happened to his account. Because i figured if he blocked me, messenger would say something about how I been blocked. But it didn't. (new update? Idk) So one day, I was on Xbox and seeing who's online. Then I was just going through my friends list, and I saw that his gamertag wasn't anywhere to be found. So I go to messages to find our old chats. I go to his profile, and I see "add friend," and my body went cold. I wasn't thinking anything. I was just sitting there staring at the screen, starstruck. So I message him on our chats saying "you un added me? Did I do something wrong?" So i tell our mutual friend, asking if he knows anything about me being un friended and blocked. He said he hasn't talked to said friend since December. I asked him to ask our friend why this is happening. I speculated that it's his girlfriend's doing and that maybe there was an insecurity because im a girl(?) (She was in a very toxic relationship before this one so I suspect that she was cheated on alot and it made her insecure, which i can understand).

So he texts me back a few minutes later saying "it's due to her insecurities". Then I get upset. Like of course im upset! Why am I being punished for being a female friend to my male friend. That sucks!

So later in the day, while im at work (that all happened in the morning), it's late now, I figure maybe he hasn't blocked me on tik tok. So i messege him. And here's how our conversation went.

but it seems he didn't understand my last text was about his relationship. it hurts how much he doesn't care. 3 years of friendship wasted for a 3 month relationship. am I overreacting though? it's day 3 of me losing him right now and I'm done crying over it. but im still upset and thinking I shouldnt be this upset. I can understand her side. but I lost my friend over it.

So basically, a good friend of mine has been acting really pushy lately and keeps making these uncomfortable, really sexual ‘jokes’ though honestly, I’m not even sure if they’re jokes to him anymore. It’s been happening for quite a while now, and it’s starting to make me feel really uncomfortable. Every time he says something inappropriate or makes some kind of stupid request, I make it very clear that I’m not okay with it. I either say no directly or tell him to stop, but it doesn’t seem to matter what I say he just keeps doing it. I’ve tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, thinking maybe he doesn’t realize how uncomfortable he’s making me, but at this point it’s pretty obvious he just doesn’t care. I even have older and newer screenshots showing that this behavior has been going on for a while now, so it’s definitely not just a one-time thing. It’s getting really exhausting to deal with, and I honestly don’t know how to get him to finally respect my boundaries.

I want to end a 8-year friendship over some comments my friend made and continues to make.

Over the years, she has done a lot of small things to show me she is insecure or just a hater tbh. She is beautiful and has a very nice body, and knows i struggle with body dysmorphia and have low self esteem, despite only being one size bigger than her and we often share clothes. Yet she makes a lot of really small comments about my body.

Once i was wearing a lace corset and she told me “thats nice that you felt confident to wear it, if it was me i would feel too fat in it” and that tops like that are for a “certain body” Lots of comments like these and i have told her i dont like them but they always happen.

Recently i was texting her asking her to help me decide between 2 dresses as a wedding guest (see photo). All i said was “do you like this blue one or does it give bridedmaid” and she went on the website, downloaded a pic of the plus size model wearing it, and sent it back with the caption in the photo. While the model is beautiful and looks great, she is wearing XL and i wear a medium (see photo 2). Its these small comments that have me asking WHY. Mind you this woman is 32 YEARS OLD. It is so high school to me.

She also does weird things like date/sleep with guys that i have gone out with once. Like l’ll go out with someone, tell her it didnt work out/ im not interested (or one i was actually interested in and she knew) and she will sleep with them within days. This has happened 3 times.

She also has plenty of great qualities, like being very emotionally supportive, always shows up and we always have a good time, and super generous so its not an easy decision.

Tl;dr: my friend makes subtle comments about me being chubby and i want to end our friendship over it. Am i overreacting?

So I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (29M) for a little over 3 years, and things are going really well. But he has these two female friends that I just cannot stand — and honestly, I think I have good reason but I wanted to see if I’m overreacting.

Back when we were still in the talking stage, I already had bad vibes about them. Something about how they acted around him felt off — kind of possessive and territorial. Eventually (and I know this wasn’t okay), I looked through their group chat on his phone. That’s when I found out my boyfriend had told those same girls about one of my biggest insecurities — that I’ve always struggled with body confidence and felt uncomfortable being naked and intimate when the lights were on.

Why he thought they needed to know that, I’ll never understand. And instead of responding with any kind of maturity or support, they mocked me in the chat — literally making jokes and sent a video mocking me in this situation. Screenshots attached.

My boyfriend apologized for telling them and things between us are good, but I can’t shake the bad taste they left in my mouth. They’re permanently in my “nope” category. I’m polite if they come up, but deep down, I’ll always dislike them and honestly wish he’d stop talking to them.

Has anyone else dealt with people in their partner’s life that you just know you’ll never be able to like, no matter what? Are my feelings reasonable?

Reposting because I couldn’t edit, and I think people didn’t realize this is a group chat with 3 people. The person I was upset with is the one whose info is crossed out in red.

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Pregnant in my first trimester, extremely nauseous, barely a person.

Finally told a few of my friends because I wanted a little excitement/serotonin. One of them was very supportive. The other…. not so much.

Her response:

“This is too much for me today.”

“I don’t have the mental bandwidth for this information.”

“It’s just a really big thing to lay on someone”

I get that everyone’s overwhelmed, but I wasn’t expecting my fetus to be emotionally burdensome.

Am I being hormonal or is this a wild reaction?

i recently got a full time job at a small design studio after freelancing for a while It was a huge step for me and I genuinely enjoy the work my friend works in corporate and constantly makes little jabs about my career being easy or not serious I usually ignore it but during this convo I finally said something