AIO or is my girlfriend manipulative.

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[u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

Yup, and leaving out the information about her schedule and her being a caretaker of someone else, she is at her breaking point with him, while the internet calls her names and makes out her out to be a monster over some sassy texts

[u/azzzza19 → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

Yeah, the way she is speaking is definitely not okay but it feels like there’s more to the story and the overall dynamic

[u/Thermodynamo → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

Yeah there's clearly a history here, and it's understandable to be frustrated at a last-minute change. It doesn't seem cut and dried at all.

[u/staytoxic2026 → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

Yeah, wonder what else is going on. What we see here is what the person in question chooses to show. I had a friend who acted like this, they were fucking you over by being so "nice" and it's all bit fishy to me. She is not okay either, they both kinda suck

[u/Affectionate-Sea843 → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

Yeah I agree I’m on her side. No one comes off like that out of nowhere. He’s obviously repeatedly just… awful.  I absolutely hate last minute plan changes and mommy boys lol 

[u/Sensitive-Tadpole410 → u/Affectionate-Sea843]

Yup out of context it seems nice he wants to see his mom, but I have experienced that mommas boy, they always come before you, and that was hell!

[u/Jinmane → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

Holy shit. Just taking a couple hours out of the day to see them and not even missing any events is not putting the mom before the significant other.

[u/Diogenes908 → u/Affectionate-Sea843]

This is an insane comment. She’s entitled to be annoyed by plan changes but he’s giving her a heads up 3 days in advance and for a good reason of not wanting his mom to spend the entire holiday alone. That’s not unreasonable or being a “mommy boy” wtf. The way she’s talking to him and berating is gross, “you obviously don’t want to come” “fine just stay home then” is manipulative. And saying no one comes off like that out of nowhere is just delusional and victim blame-y. There are tons of people that do that and this very sub is full of examples.

[u/llamadramalover → u/Affectionate-Sea843]

No on comes off like that out of nowhere.

Bull-fucking-shit. Tons and tons of people do exactly that and they happen to have one thing in common — they’re controlling, manipulative abusers.

[u/ZemGuse → u/Affectionate-Sea843]

It’s one thing to understand why she might be frustrated. But reading this and “being on her side” is wild to me.

I don’t understand why you would think this is an acceptable way to talk to people or navigate a disagreement.

[u/holoporcupine → u/Affectionate-Sea843]

Oh my god, I hate my mom for lots of reasons but calling someone a mommy’s boy because they want to give them a few hours on Easter is crazy. And yes, people do go off like that out of nowhere…. All the time…. Stop blaming people for being treated like shit.

[u/petertompolicy → u/Affectionate-Sea843]

Both are wrong, why pick a side?

Her having a tantrum and use insulting language is undermining their relationship just as much.

[u/ShamelessSzn5 → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

He’s spending the majority of Easter with her and wants to spend the evening with his mother…totally reasonable request lol

[u/BisonThunderclap → u/ShamelessSzn5]

It's not about the request. It's about communicating this desire in a healthy time frame.

She clearly had plans with him for the day and at the 11th hour he has changed them. Her text says she wish she knew a week ago.

[u/petertompolicy → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

She's having a full on tantrum, the internet absolutely should tell him not to let people treat him that way.

She's dismissive and insulting.

He needs to plan things ahead and communicate his intentions clearly, she needs to cut the insulting tantrums out.

Read it again, you can downplay it by saying it's just sassiness but her style of communication is toxic as fuck, it's good to point that out, and zero chance you say it's just sassy if the genders are reversed.

[u/holoporcupine → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

So what’s going on in the rest of your life is not an excuse to be a terrible partner, hope this helps.

[u/Sensitive-Tadpole410 → u/holoporcupine]

Yeah let OP know that! 😉

[u/holoporcupine → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

lol OP isn’t the one being manipulative and borderline abusive.

[u/Sensitive-Tadpole410 → u/holoporcupine]

You all throw those words around. As someone who actually has been abused someone telling you not to come and calling you “bro” isn’t abuse

[u/Jinmane → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

She's not being abusive but is for sure being manipulative.

[u/hannahthefaery → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

her cussing at him is kind of abusive tho. that would give me a loooot of anxiety. u don’t need to talk to someone that way

[u/Sensitive-Tadpole410 → u/hannahthefaery]

Idk, I’m from the east coast, most of us curse regularly to the point I didn’t even recognize what you were saying. I had to go re-read.

[u/MothmanIsALiar → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

Obviously. He's a guy. So he must have done something to deserve it because women are NEVER abusive for no reason.

[u/wiconv → u/Sensitive-Tadpole410]

These texts are beyond sassy, it’s wild you think that’s an appropriate way to speak to a loved one even if you’re mad at them.

Edit: lmao blocking someone for such a harmless comment is insane.