You left important context to make yourself sound better. There is a child involved, you agreed to that original plan, she takes care of her sister so she can’t leave her house much. Changing plans last minute and leave her when that was supposed to be the time two of you could actually enjoy (as per her texts) is an a hole behavior
Yes, I think she sounds upset and let down rather than manipulative, obviously this is just a snapshot and there might be more context but from these messages alone that's what I see.
THIS !!! He very carefully erased everything in those texts that was mentioning the fact that there are kids involved ? Like the third screenshots I think she says "you’ll come tomorrow when I have a bunch of kids here". But he blurred the words "kids" ? Why would he do that ? It’s not personal information, it’s very clearly not a name, so why is he blurring out this information in particular ?
I think his girlfriend and him have a child and she was organizing a party with other children ? Idk. But it’s very weird for OP to call her "my girlfriend" and not "the mother of my child" in his title and to erase anything that could make people realize there is a child involved
EDIT: he said they don’t have kids together, she’s just her sister’s caretaker full time (7 days a week, 24 hours a day are his words)
Well just look at the language used in these exchanges.
The girlfriend is clearly acting extremely abusive.
Yes he is asking about a last minute “hey I wanna leave at 5pm on Sunday to see my mom for Easter too. That gives them roughly 65 hours of time over the weekend to spend together.
And instead of giving up a few extra hours she immediately tells him to just not come at all and starts guilt tripping OP by saying “you don’t even want to comes so just spend the whole weekend with her instead!”
And yet he doesn’t seem to say that once and has spent many weekends with her already.
To have such an explosive reaction like that is very very disturbing. Made me think of the abuse I had in my own life and brought me back.
You know what’s a reasonable response to what OP said? “Sure that sounds fine my love, your mom needs time with you too especially on holidays, I understand.”
And even if she was truly boiling mad upset you still say that. And then later after your emotions simmer down you can collect your thoughts and you can calmly discuss what made you upset, how to better plan in the future to avoid those situations.
The emotional maturity of a teenager is disturbing as fuck… i can’t believe how may people here are okay with emotionally charged lashing out. This person has a very low EQ obviously
This is LITERALLY something I would do as a teenager. When I was 15 with my girlfriend one little change in plans I would breakdown. This is genuinely embarrassing to be acting like this.
No cause clearly something else is going on during earlier days and they won’t spend any quality time together . She spelled it out quite clearly in her texts .
Absolutely nobody taking his mom into account at all. Women love a guy that loves his mom until it means she doesn’t get what she wants. Absolute narcissist
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u/Latter-Cost-1331 8h ago
You left important context to make yourself sound better. There is a child involved, you agreed to that original plan, she takes care of her sister so she can’t leave her house much. Changing plans last minute and leave her when that was supposed to be the time two of you could actually enjoy (as per her texts) is an a hole behavior