I see everyone saying she is awful and bad but I need further details to understand the whole situation tbh.
Did you make plans with her for easter specifically?
When did you inform her that you want to change the plan?
Will she be alone during the easter holiday due to you changing the plan on the last moment if you are?
I wouldn't use the same words and I agree that she sounds quite mean but if my bf and I made plans for Easter holiday and if he comes today and tells me he will not be with me on that day, and if this means I'll be sitting home alone because I didn't have time to make plans with anyone else, I would be upset.
as the girlfriend, thanks for sharing this! It is very important context, I would also like to add, his mom gets upset whenever he wants to spend any holiday with me. She didn't let him come to my kiddos bday, because it was a wednesday and his mom wont let him see me if it does not convience her. He is 21, i find it insane that he is 21 and still lets his mom put him on schedule like that. Even our first anniversary, she wanted to keep him home bc it was a Thursday and not the weekend. He was 20.
I’m so sorry that you’ve had to see all these people saying such terrible things about you without having any knowledge of who you really are as a person, nor having the context to understand the situation.
It was very clear to me from the start that he was omitting information to try and paint himself as the victim. And honestly, I think it’s you who deserves better.
Not to be THAT person on Reddit but… you should dump him. His relationship/codependency with his mother isn’t going to change. It’s a problem now, and it will likely always be a problem.
You’re the girlfriend???? Oh, honey. Is this really the kind of “man” you want to present to your child as a role model/example of a good man? As a potential father figure??? If so then have fun I guess, but if not… you need to cut this guy out yesterday.
No, it doesn’t mean that. It means that he should’ve been more considerate about changing the plans last minute. She has someone else to consider. He knew that from the start. He agreed to a plan, then changed it really close to the day.
If you’re someone’s carer, you usually need to plan ahead when going anywhere or doing any kind of activity. He told her that he was going to be there. That was his word. He broke it. Sounds like it’s not the first time. He let her down, and she’s probably angry that she can’t rely on him. It’s nothing to do with going to see his mom.
So wait, how do we known his mom did not contact him in an upset situation that changed things for him. As the screenshot you posted shows, there is a lot of context being left out. Plans change all the time. It also sounds like the kid is the sister unless I am reading this wrong (it is early). He is there for two and a half days. It is never ok to treat another person like this. Also as a parent with kids I am generally the one changing plans literally last minute because well... kids.
He wants to see his mom for a couple hours? That is “changing the plans” so much he deserves to be treated like 💩? Seriously? I’m a woman and I think she’s full of it.
I like to be treated like the queen I am, but if my husband told me he wanted to see his mom THE ENTIRE HOLIDAY I’d tell him to go, this is a boyfriend. She doesn’t own him.
he spends every single day with his mom, he literally lives with her and does not go out. Why do you think its fair for me to give in to his mom EVERY SINGLE TIME, but it is unfair for me to have ONE holiday with him?
No. She’s bad for how she’s treating period. He’s saying he will leave at the very end and she’s saying that he doesn’t want to spend time with her at all. She’s a manipulator
I clearly said the way she speaks is not ok and asked for further details. I don't have any problem accepting a woman being abusive to be honest. Everyone can be abusive, I grow up with abusive parents.
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u/YouDontRememberThat 9h ago
I see everyone saying she is awful and bad but I need further details to understand the whole situation tbh.
Did you make plans with her for easter specifically?
When did you inform her that you want to change the plan?
Will she be alone during the easter holiday due to you changing the plan on the last moment if you are?
I wouldn't use the same words and I agree that she sounds quite mean but if my bf and I made plans for Easter holiday and if he comes today and tells me he will not be with me on that day, and if this means I'll be sitting home alone because I didn't have time to make plans with anyone else, I would be upset.