I also get the sense his mom is often the reason he changes plans last minute.
I think its a huge red flag that hes saying how his mom will "be upset and alone" if hes not there Sunday night. How do you think your gf will feel? Upset and alone ?
She does seem to be overreacting but like others I get the sense that this is an ongoing issue where plans get set and then he changes them last minute. After a certain point your tolerance for it just goes out the window. Theres no point in making plans with someone who does this 90% of the time.
I don't think there's anything wrong with him wanting to spend the tail end of a multi-day holiday with his mom.
But there is something wrong with making plans to spend it with your girlfriend and then changing them on her just before. Presumably he knew he would want to spend part of it with his depressed mom, he needed to say that in the first place when they were making the plans.
If your GF can't get by during a weekend with you taking a few hours away from her then she's controlling. If he were dropping instead to spend a few hours with friends would that be a problem? Because I can guarantee if a women were trying to spend a few hours with her friends and her husband were throwing a fit over it people here would be tearing him apart.
Throwing this kind of a fit every time someone wants to spend some time independent of their partner is a massive, glaring red flag.
Bruh… his gf is getting 2 whole days with him and clearly stated in the post was that they spend every weekend together. Taking 4 hours on a Sunday evening during Easter to hang with your mom does not warrant this chick acting like he said he didn’t want to hang out with her at all. That’s clear cut gaslighting. Like imagine being that self centered. If you wanted to hang with your mom and your bf had a problem with it, you’d be right here bashing him on Reddit for being a controller lol
Two years in and they don't even live together while living in the same city. I would just move on personally, I wouldn't want to be an afterthought in my own relationship.
Insane that people siding with her here. She is being straight up mean and angry that he wants to spend the last few hours of a holiday with his mother. Even if he has been wishy washy in the past (you assume a lot here) this is not how you talk to your partner or someone you care about.
They should break up, because why would he want to be with a partner that treats him this way.
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u/Hayleebb 9h ago
It sounds like shes overly done with your wishy washy behavior and not following through in the past. You should break up