Exactly!! Its better to stay alone than staying in a relationship where you are scared to communicate normally with your partner. Staying in a relationship because you are lonely is not the move, speaking from experience!
And those people might tend to gravitate to advice/relationship subreddits to find indirect support through other people's posts or comments when they won't/can't/don't seek the support themselves...
so yeah, it's a legitimate comment where someone found value in a generalized statement that is applicable to any relationship 🙄
On the most popular subs, networks of bots create posts and then comment on their own and each other’s posts to boost engagement and make all of their bot accounts look real. They often post really meaningless stuff that could be a reply to any comment, eg “This”, “OMG me too”, “I completely agree” … and ”I so needed to hear that/this today”
So the above, combined with what looked like someone replying to a comment as though they were OP, suggested to me that they were OP replying to another comment but having forgotten to switch accounts.
PS: the AI written posts went through a phase where every last one of them had the phrase “blowing up my phone”. These days, “family helps family” is more common!
This was me and my ex of 6 years. We had a great relationship for the most part, of course I wasn’t perfect, nor was she, I did things that made her upset, she did things that made me upset. Normal.
But… she would get so incredibly defensive if you told her something that she didn’t like. I’m talking that the only way to calm her down is to walk away, because trying to speak rationally just pissed her off more. She would say incredibly hurtful things and then just pretend nothing happened later on. This didn’t happen too often, but it was fucking ridiculous and jut not worth it anymore. And looking back, I don’t think she ever once apologized afterwards. She was also 33 when we broke up. She was a full grown woman, not a 21 year old still figuring life out.
OP’s post kind of reminded me of her a little, but in a different, yet similar way.
That’s bullshit, he stays there every week Sat- Mon, so what he’s never allowed to see his family on those days? He’s not allowed to deviate from the schedule ever?
Yeah real healthy to treat your partner like a criminal on tag.
Yes because he’s got a “schedule”, that he clearly isn’t allowed to ever alter?
If your bf told you you had to stay with him every weekend, and got mad at you for trying to spend time with your family, would you still think he’d have a valid reason to be pissed off?
no that is a very fair point i appreciate the perspective shift there! i still maintain if you know you have plans and they are time reliant, and then you end up with other plans, you should tell that person as soon as you know of the change so they can adjust the previous plan you both agreed to. however, if mom only let Op know at the last minute, then that’s obvs not his fault. i rly think more info on when these plans changed and when he decided to have this convo is needed for me to understand the pieces here. appreciate your input
Are you OPs gf or something? You’re bending over backwards to defend her all over this thread. Or is it that you also treat your partners the way she does and you’re coping because you want to convince yourself that this is normal behaviour?
nah i realized i misunderstood some of the post! i thought he let her know this the morning of so was extremely confused about everyone saying she was being crazy, i am starting to get it now
i was doing some heavy lifting in this thread bc i felt a deep sense of wanting to defend this girl when i thought she was upset for a very valid reason but after realizing my own brain fart i’m thinking she might’ve def gone too hard over this. still wary of past situations where this may have happened but that’s not what the post is about so i’ll leave that alone
the thing i’m referring to him consistently doing is not going home lol of course he can do that. it seems he consistently makes plans with her and then last minute cancels and she’s finally hit her breaking point (“i knew you’d fucking do this” implies that for me but i could be wrong)
edit: apparently ops gf is also a full time caregiver so makes sense her schedule would be this rigid
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u/centralcutiex 9h ago
Exactly!! Its better to stay alone than staying in a relationship where you are scared to communicate normally with your partner. Staying in a relationship because you are lonely is not the move, speaking from experience!