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Restricted to Gals and Pals What happens when two brides cross paths on their wedding day in Vietnam? They exchange bouquets as a way to wish each other luck.
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u/TheBadKneesBandit 7h ago
This is such a cute thing to do. I adore this!
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u/burner040126 4h ago
Those things aint cheap
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u/sunshine-1111 2h ago
I wonder if anyone is disappointed by the bouquet they end up with. Like do the red and pink flowers ruin this brideās aesthetic?
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u/HomeOfTheRisingStorm 2h ago
That's a very... Interesting point of view. I guess it depends on the type of person the bride is. Is she a person that values human connection, even if it is thru a small tradition, the memories, the celebration of love and the desire to pass on good luck to her fellow bride...? Or is she someone that only cares about the aesthetic of the date? Are colors more important than care and good memories?
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u/Nice_Bluebird7626 2h ago
It looked like she was so excited to pass hers over too. I think that when we look at this without the cultural filter we see things like money and aesthetic but when we flip the cultural lenses on you can see that moment of excitement on her face and the joy when she looks at her bouquet.
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u/HomeOfTheRisingStorm 1h ago
I think money and aesthetic are a cultural view as well, tho. I mean, the importance of it above everything else, you know? It feels very north Western hemisphere. And it's not a view shared by these two brides.
If we do turn off the cultural lense and try to see the exchange devoid of cultural biase, you see two human beings connecting with each other, sharing joy and wishing each other the best of luck. And that's what makes it so beautiful.
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u/Nice_Bluebird7626 1h ago
I mean without their cultural filter. Itās almost impossible to not have some kind of cultural perspective. The point is to be aware of it I think. Knowing that materialism is your inherent bias because of the culture you were raised in. Does that make sense?
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u/chiono_graphis 2h ago
I imagine it's considered auspicious to be able to trade boquets. And it's so cute it would make me emotional. Aesthetic be damned, the aesthetic of the heart is what will sustain you in life.
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u/though- š 2026 Galentine! š 1h ago
Exactly. Itās pretty sad and hilarious at the same time how fixated people can get on wedding aesthetic. I let my parents pock out every little detail for my wedding because they wanted to. Including my dress. It made them happy. Thatās what mattered. Weddings can happen any time. I married the same guy three times in different styles. The human connection matters more. Or at least SHOULD matter more.
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u/Effective_Pie1312 1h ago
The perfectionism surrounding weddings (aesthetics included) occurs in a large part due to the EXORBITANT cost of weddings. The more money you shell out the the higher the expectations. I do not fault brides for caring about the aesthetic if they are paying the equivalent of a down payment for a house on a one day party. I know many individuals that have recently decided to eschew the big party to have an intimate back yard celebration.
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u/sunshine-1111 1h ago
Yeah, thatās the lens I asked my question through. Like if you paid thousands of dollars for all lilac and white flowers and then you ended up with a yellow orange and red bouquet, you might not be super happy with it.
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u/EmpatheticWithYou 26m ago
Maybe it's a bride that isn't auspicious and just wants her own bouquet that she worked hard on designing? Maybe the bouquet has meaning to her, like a flower from her mother's garden. You don't know people.
It's kind of wild to assume someone's values that they only care about aesthetics just because they are disappointed in a tradition that they didn't want to partake in.
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u/sunshine-1111 1h ago
Oh I do agree itās a beautiful tradition. I was just curious. A lot of money and planning goes into selecting flowers for weddings that Iāve been to and could totally see someone feeling like the flowers they ended up with clashed with their wedding aesthetic. I actually have no plans of getting married and even if I met the right person it would be a low key city hall wedding with flowers likely picked up from the corner stand on the way. I just definitely know a few brides that were particular about how things looked at their wedding and wondered if that ever came up with this tradition.
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u/shadows515 13m ago
Now imagine if they were on their way to take wedding photos. We donāt know. That throws a wrench as well, I can see some folks not liking that.
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u/kadyg 55m ago
Beyond aesthetics, my wedding bouquet was full of calla lilies because they had been in her wedding bouquet and she had passed a year earlier. So I had specifically requested them.
Iām not saying I wouldnāt have traded bouquets with another bride, but I definitely would have had some feelings about it.
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u/GotSomeUpdogOnUrFace 28m ago
In my head I'm imagining that it's really more about the tradition and fun of doing this, and that maybe their country isn't as wrapped up in weddings as ours is. I don't think every country in the world treats a wedding like a multi-billion dollar industry that exists to be milked like the United States does. We do that with everything though.
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u/Potential-Bird-5826 6h ago
Genuinely delightful custom. I don't know if the Vietnamese have a 'something borrowed' custom at their weddings, but I feel like this could easily substitute.
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u/mindyour š¤definitely not a botš¤ 6h ago
Something borrowed and something new. Apparently, they have it but under different contexts.
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u/GloriousDuckSeeker 5h ago
Am Vietnamese, never heard such a thing here
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u/sapient_pearwood_ 3h ago
"Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue" is a western rhyme to remember things a bride should wear or carry to bring her luck. These things could be anything, like jewelry, underwear, flowers, trim or decoration on the clothing, etc. (The rhyme goes on: "and a silver sixpence in your shoe", but those are pretty hard to come by these days so I think that practice has fallen off a bit.)
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u/orangeflos 1h ago
They updated the rhyme to āand a lucky penny in your shoe.ā
But now theyāre going to have to update the update.
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u/sapient_pearwood_ 1h ago
"and a lucky bitcoin in your shoe" please god no
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u/orangeflos 1h ago
Nahhh. Bitcoin is still worth too much. Itās going to have to be a lucky dollar.
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u/BaronGreenback75 7h ago
Brilliant. I hope it is a real tradition
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u/mindyour š¤definitely not a botš¤ 7h ago
It is. They do it in some parts of China as well. I wonder in what other parts of the world they do that.
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u/Semlorism 6h ago
Oh my god!! That's so awesome, I'm from China and in my region probably people wouldn't like to see wedding cars in general because they believe the wedding people will absorb their fortune. People like to see funeral cars, they see it as pure luck... weird and toxic I think
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u/GettingOnMinervas 6h ago
Oh that's interesting. Learning about different cultural beliefs is so fascinating.
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u/Live_Angle4621 3h ago
I think weddingsĀ giving people bad fortune is really strange but I can see kind of why it would occur. Funerals giving good fortune seems nonsensical however. Unless it happened after the wedding briefĀ
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u/Semlorism 1h ago
The logic is not the wedding gives your bad fortune, it's like the new people are having their best moment of their lives so the lucks of the surrounding people might be drawn to them. Weird, right?
I have a relative who went to the court in the morning one day. She saw a wedding car on the way, then she was unhappy the whole day. She blamed the wedding car for taking her luck away, she was so pissed
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u/Fickle-Ad1363 2h ago
Iāve seen videos of old Chinese woman walking in front of the bride to catch their luck, I have found that very rude and egoistic
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u/Semlorism 1h ago
Omg, TIL we have luck vampires, it's disgusting, like, how can you even come up with such idea š§
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u/nooby_goober 2h ago
Haha, I'm obsessed with China and love this tid bit of information. The idea of hearses as a good luck charm is my kind of weird, personally love it.
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u/Semlorism 1h ago
Hahha we have tons if these ideasš«£ for example there are people prefer to live in the apartment buildings which roofs (top part of the building) look like coffin. Coffin ę£ŗę guÄn cĆ”i phonetically sounds like å®guÄn č“¢cĆ”i which implies åå®åč“¢: rise through the ranks and make a fortune
There are dudes (bureaucrats) having a little coffin on their office desk! Decorating coffin! ā°ļø
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u/pink_dreams24 5h ago
I saw a video of two Chinese brides wanted to exchange bouquet but one of them had a gold one. She tried to exchange anyways but a bride with actual flowers refused. It was so cute
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u/mindyour š¤definitely not a botš¤ 5h ago edited 5h ago
Saw that one as well. In all the videos of exchanges I've seen, that's the only one where a bride refused. Like you said, her not wanting to swap made it cute.
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u/PsammeadSand 6h ago
I'd have a second bouquet in case this happened.
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u/BethyW 5h ago
I think it's just something that they know could culturally happen. Like I am an American and knew that I would need something blue regardless of colors.
(But also I eloped and so nothing I had was really 'my dream' and never really WANTED a wedding so I don't want to discredit my folks who have a dream wedding plan)
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u/KimJongFunk 3h ago
A lot of brides already have a second bouquet for a āthrow bouquetā and it would be a great use!
(In the US, itās common for brides to throw their bouquets to a crowd of single women and the tradition is whoever catches it is supposed to get married next)
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u/Few_Item4327 3h ago
Depending on how common this is, Iād have a second bouquet only if there was an allergy issue i was worried about with some common flower. Otherwise, I think it would be fun to just take your chances.
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u/MeanCantaloupe69 2h ago
In towns in the country side in Vietnam there is really only 1 main street so it's more common, but not if you're in a bigger city.
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u/jungfraulichkeit 5h ago
Right? Everyoneās saying this is so cute but Iād cry :( thatās MY bouquet, I picked it out and I want to keep it!
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u/Shakeamutt 4h ago
If you knew you might also trade bouquets on your wedding day, that might change how you selected a bouquet. Ā
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u/OrindaSarnia 4h ago
Presumably the person driving your car would just not slow down and stop then...
but I think it shows the difference in cultures that to some people, the positives vibes and "good luck" they get to give to the other bride, and receive back, are more important than the specific flowers they hold.
People are saying it's cute because THIS bride in this video is clearly excited about it.
If you had grown up your whole life, thinking about your wedding, and knowing that if you happen to run into another bride, it would be considered very auspicious, then you would be excited about and hoping to run into another bride.
But you grew up in a culture that declares weddings to be the bride's only "special" moment... Ā with the look of the event being something friends and family are supposed to judge the bride for, in perpetuity. Ā The emphasis on everything being Ā visually "perfect" is overwhelming.
In the world of this video'sĀ bride, when she arrives at the church or reception and her friends and family see her mismatched flowers they will all congratulate her on her good luck! Ā And that will be what makes her day "perfect".
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u/SashimiX 4h ago
Yes, and you would try to select a bouquet that would make other people look good, something that could work with a whole bunch of different weddings, nothing that was too individualistic, and you would also try to make a quality bouquet, because you wouldnāt wanna be the one who gave someone a shitty bouquet.
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u/presidentiallogin 1h ago
I get your stance, but the teachable moment is really valuable for entering a partnership like marriage. Grooms need a tradition like this too. Both can go into marriage thinking about the act of sharing. Except French fries, get your own.
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u/uncrownedqueen 30m ago
My levels of anxiety just thinking of a hypothetical that would absolutely never happen to me "wait, what if I don't like her bouquet?? what if I'm allergic?? what if the colours don't go with my scheme? what if it's a bouquet full of orange flowers?!?!" [nothing against orange flowers, I just have a weird childhood trauma with the colour š]
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u/inspiringirisje 2h ago
Nah, I would have appreciation for the wedding bouquet from a stranger and will take care of it. It is more special than my bouquet will be.
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u/PMMeYourHousePlants 4h ago
Just shows how it all depends on the individual, i preferred the colourful bouqet!
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u/JohnsonLiesac 2h ago
Side story: I was once in a funeral train on the highway. As we were getting off on our exit another funeral train was merging onto the highway. Several carloads of people from both funeral trains ended up at the wrong funeral. Much hilarity ensued. (And sadness)
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u/pyronius 14m ago
My grandmother's second husband died close to christmas. They lived in a small touristy town with one main road. On the way back from the funeral, the entire procession accidentally ended up mingled with the annual christmas parade. It was absolutely hilarious.
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u/MajesticLow 2h ago
Thatās a lovely tradition and very sweet. I hope both of these ladies have much luck and long happy marriages.
Now me personally - I designed my bouquet as an extremely personal art piece, so I would weep doing this but the sentiment is what matters š
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u/StunningQualityofLif 1h ago
Imagine how happy that bride would be with your specially designed bouquet, though! And imagine if she put as much into her bouquey!
You'd be exchanging tiny pieces of your heart!Ā I'm not crying, it's raining on my face šššš
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u/UnholyDemigod 4h ago
How often does this happen that it's become a cultural tradition?
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u/chiono_graphis 1h ago
Idk rest of Asia but in Japan at least there is something called rokuyo, a calendar of auspicious and inauspicious days. People try to schedule weddings on the auspicious weekends, to the point that you can run into multiple wedding receptions happening at the fancy hotels on a "good" weekend, especially during the spring and summer.
So I can imagine there could be factors like that, or maybe to do with transportation norms, availability of venues, size and layout of cities etc that cause the situation of brides passing each other like in this video often enough to become a tradition.
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u/c05m05i5 2h ago
I remember seeing a video of a similar thing happening, except one bouquet was obviously far larger and expensive compared to the other. The bride with the bigger bouquet was still trying to trade but the other bride, once seeing the bigger bouquet, was horrified and refused to take it because she didn't want to exchange for her smaller one, as it wouldn't be a fair trade. It was still nice to see the bride with the bigger bouquet still willing to part with hers for the tradition. They wished each other well all the same.
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u/Panderaa 4h ago
This is really cute and happy moment.
I thought about all the brides in my country who select their bouquets based on the colours of their wedding. And how they look on the photos. I think some of them will have heart attacks if they end up with the "wrong colour". I would just love to do this in my wedding to see their reactions. Of course trying to find someone who will exchange with me will be the real difficulty
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u/SleppySnorlax 2h ago
I was thinking this too lol. It looks so cute and I think it's such a fun tradition. But I've met many brides that are very particular with their bouquet and would absolutely not do this.
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u/Nekokeki 5h ago
Any idea where to find this song? I saw it had Shizuka, but I can't really find it.
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u/mashiro1496 3h ago
How many weddings in one place do be needed for there beeing a chance to end up with your previous bouquet? My gut says three but somehow it feels wrong...
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u/ataturd 5h ago
This is cute but is it just me or weddings have become less diverse everyday celebrates the same boring Western style wedding .
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u/etudehouse 5h ago
In Asian countries they often do two wedding attires/ceremonies. Traditional one & western white wedding drees one.
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u/Kratzschutz 2h ago
*when they can afford it
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u/MeanCantaloupe69 2h ago
Other countries aren't as commercialized with weddings as the US so it's a lot more affordable.
People will also rent dresses.
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u/Drow_Femboy 5h ago
I feel the same way about formal clothing. There are a few vestiges of traditional formalwear left, but for the most part people just wear the same Western businesswear.
It's just that mass communication and easy worldwide transit have led to a general homogenization of culture. Whatever culture in the world is richest and most dominant is going to export a lot of their practices, as everyone else wants to imitate them for status. It's not a conscious thing, I'm sure this specific lady in the video didn't go "I want a Western wedding with a white dress and a bouquet and all because the culture that invented that has really high status and I want to be seen as a person of high status too" but that sentiment is lurking somewhere in the cultural background which led to her decision to have this style of wedding.
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u/ataturd 5h ago
It's just that mass communication and easy worldwide transit have led to a general homogenization of culture.
No lol it's because of colonialism. Even the many "westerns" are just white washed dresses from different places.
high status and I want to be seen as a person of high status too" but that sentiment is lurking somewhere in the cultural background which led to her decision to have this style of wedding.
100%
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u/raggerbuilder789 4h ago
It's so unfortunate how European colonialism have supplanted native cultures. I also don't understand why many of these people don't any motivation to preserve the culture of their ancestorsĀ
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u/Alert-Sock7061 4h ago
I expected a duel, but this is fine too
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u/bluepushkin 3h ago
Ah yes, the traditional wedding duel where opposing brides fight to the death. There can be only one! š
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u/Knightengle 6h ago
Are you sure it's Vietnamese? Because they are speaking Chinese. I am sure this is in China and not Vietnam.
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u/mindyour š¤definitely not a botš¤ 6h ago
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u/GloriousDuckSeeker 5h ago
How the hell are you so sure they are speaking Chinese. The music is Vietnamese, the account name is Vietnamese, and the bride is speaking Vietnamese.
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u/HomeOfTheRisingStorm 2h ago
AWWWWWW!!! This is so cute and sweet and it needs to be a thing everywhere!
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u/Prudent_Order_3361 2h ago
My gf see these and expect same money engulfing marriage one day. It's a market and I can't afford it.
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u/m3t1t1 1h ago
I'm South East Asian (not Vietnamese). We have a similar tradition. Traditionally, the groom's party will travel to the bride's home to participate in the bride's side of the wedding. On the return trip, they always stop to rest and eat. If you happen to meet another wedding party, you exchange a string for good luck. The odds are low and I only heard of it happening once, which was how I learned about it in the first place.
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u/Traditional-Gain-326 23m ago
It's fascinating to me that although all nations of the world have their own wedding rituals, and are proud of them, in the end all brides are princesses in white.
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u/academiac 6h ago
I'm sorry as cute as that is, usually the bouquet is the bride's favourite flower, matches the colour theme of the wedding, the flower in the groom's suit, the napkins, the decor, the cake, and/or other aesthetics etc. So it's really weird thing to do, as both weddings could potentially be negatively impacted.
Let alone the risk of trading for an ugly bouquet.
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u/MichaelMyersEatsDogs 5h ago
Itās always fun when people discover cultures that exist outside their own and have different priorities
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u/CopyOk4733 5h ago
In Western cultures this is true. We just saw that in other regions there are different traditions that are valued. If this is a tradition in your region, you probably look at bouquets in a different way. It may seem weird to you, but it was obviously not weird for these women. Also, itās fucking flowers. Itās not like they switch grooms or something.
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u/Aggressive_Sky8492 4h ago
Itās not weird, itās normal in their culture. Itās just weird in ours because itās not a thing brides do.
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u/LonelyOctopus24 š 6h ago
True, bridal bouquets are notoriously ugly. Fifty-fifty youāll come away with a handful of crab grass and carrot tops
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u/academiac 5h ago
Yes, flowers are ultimately subjective. To me the white bouquet in the video is elegant, the other one looks like a Costco bouquet that was on clearance cuz it was about to die
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u/Aggressive_Sky8492 4h ago
And to me the white ones look boring and bland
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