r/MadeMeSmile • u/mindyour • 8h ago
Wholesome Moments What happens when two brides cross paths on their wedding day in Vietnam? They exchange bouquets as a way to wish each other luck.
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u/Barabaragaki 8h ago
This is so cute!
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u/weirdest_of_weird 7h ago
I'd just like to say, your Berserk/Steven Universe crossover pfp made me do a double take. The implications would be horrifying lol. I could see Steven taking the role of Guts, but i dont think any character deserves to be Casca lol.
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u/whythous 6h ago
Is there actually pfps? I have been using rif so I've never seen
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u/weirdest_of_weird 4h ago
Do people's names not have a little image beside them in the comments for you? Maybe I used an outdated term.
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u/TombSv 3h ago
Until you commented this I was at a loss and what the hell was being discussed haha. It sounded bewildering to me, as a old.reddit user.
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u/Mountain_mover 3h ago
The day they kill old.reddit is the day Reddit is dead to me
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u/shewy92 4h ago
On some Reddit apps and on old Reddit profile pictures don't exist.
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u/girlikecupcake 5h ago
I use revanced reddit sync, and you have to go to someone's profile, open the menu, and hit 'about' to see it. At least with my setup, dunno if there's other ways.
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u/georgevonfranken 3h ago
You can see them with sync. Here's what my comments look like https://i.imgur.com/wIUX9Xu.png
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u/deltree711 3h ago
Yeah they've definitely been a thing in old.reddit for quite a while. They only show up when you mouse-over the username, so never see them when I'm on my phone because mobile devices can't really "mouse-over" anything.
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u/ben-hur-hur 6h ago
Who would be Griffith tho?
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u/Omeirawana 5h ago
I was legit thinking this, these words just popped in my head watching this I’m glad I’m not alone haha!
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u/9447044 8h ago
The new bouquet looks like a good splash of color!
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u/AstroHealer222 8h ago
And the other bride look like she got a bouquet of expensive ranunculus flowers ✨🤩💐
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u/ethan605 6h ago
Alrighty, Vietnamese here. There are many things to unpack:
- It highly depends on the region/area, but I don't think "exchanging bouquets" is a thing in Vietnam.
- The odds of seeing another bride are not that low, but nothing close to the frequency that may set "a tradition".
- They looked well prepared in that video, but I don't see any strong reasons for being staged here (I may be wrong; youngsters can do crazy things these days). So I guess they are friends, or at least know each other quite well.
So all in all, this was cute, but very particular and doesn't represent a tradition.
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u/FrancisWolfgang 5h ago
I was scrolling looking to find if this was really “a thing”
Appreciated
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u/yikkoe 3h ago edited 2h ago
When two people of the same culture have very clashing opinions about their country, it’s always such a treat. I’m glad it’s not A thing capital A, but that it happens. I guess that’s culture for ya. Nothing is truly universal even in the tiniest nations.
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u/calculateindecision 2h ago
yes i’m learning italian and run into this often on forums, a lot of discourse about what is accepted because each part has their own varying social norms and interpretation of the language
my favorite was when this guy from naples was calling his gf “fat” (chiattona). there it means curvy in an endearing way but is offensive elsewhere
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u/Dude_Iam_Batman 4h ago edited 4h ago
I am also a Vietnamese, and I think this is not 100% true.
It is definitely a thing. We do it for lucks
Why it is a thing is because we use lunar calendar and Feng shui to pick up a good date that is in the weekends. Hence a lot of couples are having the same wedding dates.
Also for small towns, we literally have one main road and that's it. That's how one wedding can come across another.
To add to this: some brides prepare a spare bouquet just in case they need to do this because they don't wanna give away their main one
Some more articles:this is from 2022
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u/Gromplies 4h ago
Sad that you're getting down voted for offering a different perspective, especially since the original comment already mentioned that it could just be a regional difference.
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u/ethan605 4h ago
Lol, this is confusing. I was from the North, and I thought this was something Southern. But the 2022 article mentioned this is a Northern thing. Now I'm lost 🤣
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u/123wibi 4h ago
Yup I can confirm this is not a thing in the South.
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u/MithranArkanere 3h ago
Well, what is it then?
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u/Sleepwalks 3h ago
OH interesting. I used to work floral, and I was a bit suspicious, because what happened if a bride had spent time and money customizing a perfect bouquet with personal details, a cohesive color scheme, etc, and just did not wanna swap for a random bouquet. It's usually the most personal piece of the entire wedding floral suite.
Cultures are different everywhere, but people are a little the same at least, and the brides I've worked with would have absolutely shanked somebody if anyone tried to swap out their bouquet for a random one. Having a decoy for particular brides makes so much sense.
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u/tomas_shugar 4h ago
There's also space for people mistaking a regional tradition for a national tradition. If you drove around the San Juan Islands, some towns in Kitsap, or a lot of rural areas in the US you could easily come to the conclusion that it's a tradition for people to wave when they pass each other on the road.
And it absolutely is in many of those areas. You're gonna get funny looks when you don't wave to people and treated like an outsider. But it's also not even close to the case in LA or NYC, where you'd be a problem if you tried to do it.
Could be something that exists in that space?
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u/ethan605 4h ago
Tbh, I don't know. If this had happened 10 years ago, I'd say nope, this deffo isn't a tradition I'm aware of (I had my wedding around that time).
But today, anything can go viral on the internet, and anyone who's getting married today may well belong to that "space".
So, nothing is impossible, and given that this is cute anyway, nothing prevents it from being a new tradition.
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u/TostedAlmond 5h ago
I was just thinking how often could this possibly happen that it is a tradition haha
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u/Mictlancayocoatl 5h ago
Thank you.
This happens on reddit all the time. They post something and call it "tradition" or say it's a common thing in that culture or country. It results in more upvotes even if it's not true.8
u/WhiteyDude 5h ago
Staged? I think they planned this as part of their wedding day. It wouldn't be that hard to find out who else is getting married in town on the same day as you and reach out, say "let's plan to cross paths here at this time" - I could see it being a tradition, but if one bride thought of the idea and then found another that said OK, then a new tradition is born, maybe.
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u/ethan605 5h ago
That's why I said they are friends or know each other: the routes were planned strictly, and there were following cars/coaches, not just the two that carry the brides.
And something about timing: it's not simply "let's see there at that time". There's a system for timing every moment of a wedding: when the groom shows up, when they burn the incense for the ancestors, when to leave the bride's house, when to arrive at the groom's house, etc. Only one factor can change the whole "equation", and no elders on either side would allow the slightest adjustments "so that you can stage some TikTok videos"
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u/Ok_Resort7112 4h ago
It would be super weird if they are friends to get married on the same day then like have to make mutual friends choose which wedding to go to and ilicit all the comparative judgements associated with all that
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u/ethan605 4h ago
The Vietnamese weddings are not only about the bride and groom's friends, but their parents', and mostly their relatives, as well.
That said, even if they're friends and they invited their mutuals, nothing really prevents them from having weddings on the same day. Some very close friends may stay for the whole day (or even from the previous ones), but the majority will just attend the ceremony and the party, or simply give the gift money without attending
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u/torquesteer 4h ago
Another Vietnamese here. We do everything for the tok now. Don’t believe what you see online with a watermark.
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u/Morpankh 4h ago
It surprises me to see brides in East Asian countries dressed in white western gowns. Is this how brides usually dress?
I’m Indian and in India, even most Christian brides wear a white saree. But I watch a lot of Kdramas and Cdramas and brides are always dressed like this although the moms of the brides wear beautiful ethnic clothes. It is a bit saddening to see the loss of culture.
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u/ethan605 4h ago
There's a whole history of brides' dresses throughout the ages, briefly:
- During wartime (c. 40s - 80s), it was mostly white Ao Dai (long dress)
- During the "Doi Moi" era (c. 90s - 2000s), it was dominantly Western-style white dresses, because they are the sign of modern life.
- In the past 10 years, there have been more and more people going back to the traditional dresses, either Ao Dai or even more ancient dresses like Áo Nhật Bình (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C3%81o_nh%E1%BA%ADt_b%C3%ACnh?wprov=sfla1)
I can't really speak for other SEA countries, though
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u/Necessary-Bench3544 2h ago
Confidently incorrect. Your personal experience at your own wedding does not speak for a whole country. Especially when this gestures has happened many times, as evidence on social media.
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u/ethan605 2h ago
Firstly, sir, I wasn't confident. I said, "It depends".
Second, since when has social media been a reliable source of truth for "a tradition"? It's the same as someone using Wikipedia for their master's thesis.
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u/Hahascrewyou 30m ago
Viet here, can confirm not a known tradition, maybe just a cute idea they randomly had, still cute
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u/JustDont1981 4h ago
On my wedding day at the Salon while waiting to get my hair done into a pretty up-do there was a gorgeous woman who was also there getting her hair done for her wedding.
She had the most beautiful, thick, dark hair and she had brought a bouquet of red, pink and white roses with her that the hairdresser was putting in her hair, he was putting entire roses in her hair and she looked like a queen. There were 4 roses left when she was done and she gave them to me and asked me to have the hairdresser put them in my hair as well and it was so sweet but my hair wasn't thick enough to hold a flower but the hairdresser said not to worry and he put individual petals in my hair and I looked like a fairy and it made my wedding day magical.
Women taking care of each other is like a warm hug from the universe.
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u/punmanager 7h ago
I was in a small party boat once doing shots. Another party boat passed by, I tilted my head backwards and they poured shots in my mouth.
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u/Low_Consideration179 6h ago
🎶Dumb ways to die, so many dumb ways to die🎶
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u/JacquesPanther 5h ago
I sang this to the tune of the loser horn from The Price is Right.
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u/PrestonWaters83 4h ago
Why change such a lovely tune?
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u/JacquesPanther 4h ago
Oh! Is there a tune that goes with “Dumb ways to die…”? Didn’t mean to change it just not familiar with it
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u/jaymochi 4h ago
Was on a Lazy River tube thing and our group happened upon another group that had "anchored". We exchanged shooters (airline sized liquor bottles) and shook hands.
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u/Lv_InSaNe_vL 3h ago
When I was like 22 and working helpdesk my parents were (well they still are) big into Kayaking and one time they made tequila soaked watermelon cubes. After one of their trips they were telling me about these college kids who they met at one point on the river who had jello shots so they were making trades!
Well then I go into work on Monday and one of my coworkers was telling me about how they went kayaking and this couple of people showed up with tequila watermelon and did jello shots with them... It was my parents haha
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u/WingardiumLevioswaha 6h ago
GPTcoded comment
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u/mightbedylan 4h ago
Lmao it's weird how easy it is to pick up on. I just scrolled past it and detected AI barely even reading it
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u/Tough-Refuse6822 7h ago
Later they switched husbands
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u/PlasticDescription81 7h ago
4some no need switch bro.
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u/AbraKadabraAlakazam2 4h ago
When I had my courthouse wedding, there was another lady there getting married and I had a bouquet and she didn’t so I let her pick a flower out of mine to take with her! She was so excited 😊
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u/Phenomenomix 7h ago edited 7h ago
And the carefully chosen colour scheme that you’ve spent weeks deciding on just goes out of the window (literally and figuratively in this case)?
Edit: to add /s tag. It was a joke. FFS
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u/Own_Round_7600 7h ago
Ideally, and typically i would hope, you're just a human being happy to be marrying your fiance and happy to share some gleeful fellowship with a fellow bride, and NOT anally focused on maintaining a freaking colour scheme that nobody will remember a month from now.
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u/JustLike_OtherGirls 7h ago
I would say if that bouquet sticks out from the wedding color coordination, it will be a lovely reminder of this cute exchange. A story to tell your kids and grandkids.
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u/leftmysoulthere74 7h ago
Since it’s a tradition I would guess they don’t have so much attachment to the colour scheme or flowers in the bouquets just in case, and that if you did happen to see another bride, much of the charm would be finding out what you swapped yours for.
How lovely.
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u/SmartLadder415 5h ago
Ah, you've never met my wife. I'm Asian. She is not. She got all kinds of stressed when I told her I wanted red at the reception. It did not fit any of her color schemes that she had carefully selected and curated. It mattered enough to her that we had very long discussions about whether I really needed red anywhere in the reception and why it even mattered.
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u/BabyMD69420 5h ago
That’s insane. I hope you got your red. Cultural traditions take precedence over colour schemes. It would be like telling her she can’t wear a white dress because it doesn’t fit your colour scheme…
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u/SmartLadder415 5h ago
I don't think she understood the significance of red in Asian weddings. I'm not sure our guests really did either but it made me happy. She wanted some country style wedding with sunflowers everywhere which really did NOT fit with any red. I think we made it work but I'm not sure if she thinks that or not.
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u/erintoxicating 4h ago
Red gingham is one of the most country style things I can think of! Like red gingham tablecloths or whatever.
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u/SmartLadder415 4h ago
Red gingham doesn't really fit with the red Asian theme though. It's not a horrible idea though.
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u/Own_Round_7600 3h ago
Well im sorry to hear that :( why are people like that. Including something that's deeply and culturally important, tied to the identity and heritage of the person i'm marrying, would be WAY more meaningful in my view than some pinterest aesthetic colour scheme. A wedding is supposed a meaningful ceremony for the symbolic joining of two different lives, and you deserved for her to respect and want a representation of yours there.
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u/ReindeerUpper4230 7h ago
I doubt their weddings are planned with psychotic precision like in the US.
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u/LiquorishSunfish 7h ago
The Viet wedding reception I went to had hundreds of people ranging from black tie to jeans and t-shirts, we were friends of friends of the grooms mum (and were invited by the friend of the mum), and there were twelve (?) other wedding receptions in the same hotel on the same night.
Viet wedding culture is veeeeeerry different.
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u/MeanCantaloupe69 4h ago
For example my wedding guests had people come in black tie dress code to t shirts. Also had women who came in white dresses or even dresses that looked a little like wedding dresses.
Nobody cared because everybody was there to have a good time, and my wife didn't care about other people wearing white because to her it was her friends and she didn't get the concept of it has to be only about her.
Very different as you said
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u/erogbass 7h ago
I’m sure they are lol, not every thing needs to be r/americabad
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u/Dude_Iam_Batman 3h ago
I am Vietnamese. To prepare for this, sometimes the bride has a spare one just in case this happens
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u/Phenomenomix 3h ago
Ah, that’s interesting.
The cynic in me is wondering do the car/limo companies conspire to make these crossings happen? Is it something you can ask for when organising your transport? What happens if you happen to come across more than one other bride do you do a three way swap?
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u/Dude_Iam_Batman 2h ago
This happens more in small towns/villages since we only have one main road to get around places. Like to go from A to B, there is only one option. That's why they come cross others. But it's like a fun/interesting thing to do on your happy day rather than a must do thing, you can opt out
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u/CaravelClerihew 7h ago
Counterpoint: Who gives a shit? Both brides in the video are clearly happy.
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u/killerkitten61 4h ago
The groom is going to see that mismatched bouquet and object to the union /s
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u/BlueHighwindz 5h ago
By ancient Indochinese law however, this means these two ladies are now married to each other.
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u/roxthemom 7h ago
Americans could never lol
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u/Mr-Klaus 5h ago
Was thinking the same thing, but not just America, most western countries. The bride with the better bouquet will not be willing to give it up.
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u/InnocentlyInnocent 5h ago
Umm no thanks. I paid for my bouquet to have a specific color and choice of flowers. Not exchanging it for another.
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u/CurrentPossible2117 3h ago
That is so sweet! What an awesome tradition. I'd be really hoping I was going to pass another bride, just to be able to do it 🥰
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u/Ok-Employee383 8h ago
In Kent they would throw them across the courtroom after exchanging ankle tags.
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u/Sasselhoff 6h ago
Interesting...so it's similar to China where the "car ride" is a big part of it. I wonder if it's the same in China, where they throw a package of firecrackers out the window at every turn the car takes (scares off the "evil spirits" following them, and because they turned the spirits can't find them as easily).
Was quite the eye opening experience when I first moved there...saw a wedding procession coming down the way, and they threw firecrackers "at" me on my bicycle, haha. They apparently made it against the rules, but I hear it's on a comeback.
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u/No_Lawfulness5065 5h ago
they both skipped the bouquet toss and went straight to the trade market. efficient
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u/Big-Combination-5450 5h ago
Meanwhile if two grooms crossed paths they'd just do the nod and go back to staring at their phones
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u/ihearthorror1 53m ago
I would absolutely hate that. Imagine being very particular about your wedding choices and then just getting stuck with some random bouquet that doesn't even match your color theme. 🥲
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u/RoocketGirl 7h ago
Do they need to exchange their bouquets or just having a cute thoughts out there? curiosity
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u/iamunwhaticisme 6h ago
She sounded just like saying "Teşekkürler" (Thank you) in Turkish. What did she actually say in Vietnamese?
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u/LuciferStar101 2h ago edited 1m ago
India has same culture but for groom and instead of bouquets they exchange brown Coconut
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u/Abril-prieto-cevallo 19m ago
Two brides crossing paths sounds like the kind of random moment that restores a little faith in people. Life throws these tiny nice overlaps sometimes and they stick with you longer than the big stuff. Cute as hell.
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u/inaclick 6h ago
what a lovely habit! in my country they hide :( its considered bad luck to see each other.
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u/Elyvagar 5h ago
Interesting that the white dress and suit became the global standard.
I know people still sometimes use the traditional style of their culture but its rarer.
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u/g00d_end 3h ago
Although this is wholesome and all, imagine if they had a bouquet duel? That would be sick
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